Posting children on social media

[Wyksister]

My ex husband’s sister has posted several pictures of my 11 year old daughter on her facebook page. She runs a charity and my daughter been posted on the charity page and this has been shared a lot

I’ve asked her take to take it down and instead she’d deleted my comment and blocked me

My ex husband says I’m being paranoid and doesn’t see an issue with it

i work in childcare and would never post someone else’s child on social media so I don’t understand why my ex sil thinks it’s ok

AIBU or should people not post other people’s children on open Facebook pages that can be shared

If your ex husband doesn’t see an issue I don’t think there is much you can do. But I agree with you.

I don’t get het up about kids faces on social media but I would never post someone else’s child without asking. (Or at all really)

If your ex has given permission there's not really anything you can do.

It's annoying if you don't want it to happen, but as said by others, if her father has given the OK for it then what can you do? You've asked him already and he doesn't see an issue with it so obviously he won't be backing you up with your request that she is kept off social media.
To be honest, unless it's something totally inappropriate, I'd let it go. I assume it's just a photo of her doing an activity or something? I doubt the vast majority of people will notice it past a quick glance as they scroll by.

I don't post my child on my personal social media but I have taken part in advertising for the local leisure centre and the local council. I feel that it is less identifying as there is no name or other identifying information attached. It's a photo of a generic kid with "book your soft play session now!" written above it.

Unless you ex SIL had posted a long message about how "lovely three year old Lucy had a great time last Wednesday with our charity and we can't wait to welcome her and Mummy and little brother Luke back next week" then I imagine it would be difficult for most people reading it to make any connection to you. Most of the charity's followers will scroll past with maybe a cursory "like" or comment underneath. She absolutely should have asked permission first but as your child's other parent has given retrospective permission then there's not much you can do now.

Your ex-husband gave your ex-SIL permission to post the picture on SM. As he's your daughter's Dad, and presumably has Parental Responsibility, then there's not much you can do. Your ex-husband doesn't seevthe issue, and therefore isn't going to ask his sister to remove the picture. In theory as parents, it should be a joint decision regarding pictures of your daughter being shared on SM or not. Unfortunately, as you have found out, it doesn't work in practice. Your Parental Responsibility as a Mum, doesn't trump your ex-husband's. You've appealed to your ex-SIL, and that hasn't achieved anything.

I've asked mil and sil not to post my kids before on Facebook and they still do it, it rages me.

I agree with you, I wouldn’t do it, don’t do it, and wouldn’t be happy if someone did it with my child. But your child has two parents and if her dad is okay with it then there’s really nothing you can do.

I think its awful that you don't get to have a say in this and you've been blocked by a charity. I would have assumed they'd need permission from both parents to use a child's photo, I don't understand why one parent can override the other.

@Wyksisteras others have said, your ex husband says it's fine, but a charity to blocking you isn't on. I'd call them out on that for sure.

Meanwhile, im assuming this has nothing to do with the fact its your ex husbands side of the family, and if it had been your sister, mum or best friend who posted on their page you'd be furious too?

None of my family or friends are allowed to post my children on social media

if they did I’d ask them to take it down

This is about people putting pictures up of children that aren’t theirs

Your family, your choice.

His family, his choice.

Thats it in a nutshell.

It’s a small charity and one of the comments is “oh so lovely to see “child’s name” having fun

I would be very angry if I was you, OP. I have never posted a photo of my child online, or any other family member, and would be furious if anyone else did so.