To be worried about ds being late to school when DH takes him in?

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DH is famous for being distracted. He’ll see something that needs doing or starts sending an email and the world around him ceases to exist.

DS has started school and DH is tasked with getting him there on Fridays. He was late today. Thankfully they didn’t mark ds as late but I feel like it’s not a great impression.

AIBU to say to DH if it happens again ds will have to start breakfast club Fridays?

Send your son to breakfast club - but make his dad take him .

No, I'd let him carry on. Any conversation with the school about lateness gets directed to Dad.

How late was he? Surely if he is after a certain time he has to be signed in via a school office and surely the receptionist would be asking for a reason. Won't DH feel a bit embarrassed if he is late each week for no real reason and won't your son being annoyed/upset at walking in late when he is normally on time.

Luckily they didn’t mark him as late today but they probably should have. It’s disruptive and unfair to ds. Just stresses me out.

My DH is like this and because he drives down with the car, he expects to get there in a minute, not taking into account that he has to drive down there, park, walk son through gate to classroom door.

If he is late, DH just uses the computer that logs it and walks out and he thinks nothing of it.

It’s why I walk our DS to school myself and don’t want DS to think being late to school is ok.

Set an alarm. We had one when DDs alarm actually for them so they knew it was time to leave (5minutes before) but might be useful for him.

Your DH is a grown up. You expect him to behave like one and leave him to it.

My dh used to be like this.

One day I asked if he was actually showing me and our DD that he didn’t give a shit about us by being late for things. (He was never late for work stuff!) I said if he was late again with anything to do with dc, I’d take over all responsibilities for getting them somewhere on time and it would severely affect our relationship. It did give him a real shock and he was never late again!

Weaponised incompetence
If he fucks up you will take it off him and he doesn't have to worry.

Make him do it and take the consequences

My husband is like this. I changed all the clocks forward by 10 minutes