Christmas and birthdays with no acknowledgment

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What would you do?

Every year for birthdays and Xmas, I put aside money each month to afford Christmas and birthday presents for my teenage/adult step children, nieces and nephews. Every year, my husband and I don’t even get a thank you. For our birthdays, we get a text if we are lucky from my step kids. We all have a great relationship, but as I organise it all, I’m sick of getting all stressed out to afford these occasions. I know I don’t give to receive, but surely a telephone call or acknowledgment on the gifts/money would be nice. What would you do? I feel like putting my foot down, but then I go soft just before and give in and then give them all money and gifts, only for the cycle to be repeated. Thank you 🙏

No wouldnt bother either. No thank you - no gift/money especially from an adult, its not difficult to text a thank you!

Honestly, just stop it all. It’s enormously freeing.

Stop, step kids aren’t your issue, your Dh is!

Agree with others, your H is the children’s Dad and he should be sorting his dcs cards and presents. I bet the kids know he isn’t doing anything for them at the moment and that will piss them off! (It would me anyway!).

Exactly this! ⬆️ We buy till age 18yrs in our family & then it's just cards & well wishes!

I would immediately stop buying twice yearly gifts for rude, ungrateful arseholes who don't ever thank you or so much as even acknowledge your effort/generosity, let alone reciprocate.

Them too. They're adults now. It's beyond bloody rude of them not to thank you.

I won't send gifts to anyone who hasn't got the courtesy to say thank you.