Advice for approach - son strangled at nursery for 2nd time!

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Boymumma3 · 18/09/2025 19:53

So I had a phone call today from nursery, my son has been strangled for the second time by the same child. The first time was this year but in his old class before he moved up. They are in nursery and only 3 years old!

Am I been unreasonable to request this child to be moved to another class to ensure my child is safe at nursery? I'm am very concerned as this is beyond normal toddler behaviour and it's not just the first time.

They said my son was sat on the carpet and said child went up and stepped behind him and put his hands round his neck.

Any advice how to approach nursery regarding this would be great. They was going to call me back tomorrow.

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mathanxiety · 19/09/2025 14:27

Boymumma3 · 19/09/2025 13:37

I wasn't aware he was doing it to other children too! I thought it was between my son and him as there have been numerous incidents regarding him with my son that's the reason I was going to ask him to be changed not to put other children at risk!

I asked the questions what people advised I should ask and they told me that info, they didnt tell me what needs or where referrals are been made they told me this to let me know it's not personal to my son and there are things that are been dealt with and unfortunately that's the reason my child was attacked. They told me it had happened to other children as like I said I questioned why he keeps doing this to my son when hes doing nothing wrong to him. They didnt tell me names or anything just said it's not just personally with your child it's with numerous.

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Sounds like a productive meeting.

However, I'd start looking for am alternative nursery all the same, because there have been numerous incidents with your son, and you've now learned he does this to other children too.

I'd be wary of their assurances of eyes on the child therefore. Multiple incidents, multiple children - does not indicate ability to keep eyes on this child.

Ablondiebutagoody · 19/09/2025 14:28

Considering he has form for this behaviour, eyes on him at all times doesn't seem to be working.

If all of the affected children were to smack him in the mouth, the problem would go away. Much more efficient than the emails etc or looking for another setting. Also much better for all the good DC"s confidence.

Deepbluesea1 · 19/09/2025 14:32

Boymumma3 · 18/09/2025 19:53

They said my son was sat on the carpet and said child went up and stepped behind him and put his hands round his neck.

Any advice how to approach nursery regarding this would be great. They was going to call me back tomorrow.

The other child is not your concern and you shouldn't make demands for him to be moved or demand to know names. You seem to be angry with a 3 year old.

You should be very angry with the nursery though. They obviously do not supervise the children sufficiently.

Deepbluesea1 · 19/09/2025 14:35

Boymumma3 · 19/09/2025 12:51

Spoken to the headteacher today.
He has not only done this to my child for second time but done to others too, so at least I know it's not targeted with it been a second time. They confirmed there is needs of the other child and they are doing what they can to meet them and confirmed that referrals to other agencies have been done but that's all they can say.

They have extra staff in the room to support the other child and said eyes will be on him at all times.

That is is very concerning. No headteacher should share that much confidential information about another child with you.

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