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At wits end!

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Avasmummy24 · 17/09/2025 18:10

Hey all, just ranting/venting..I guess seeing if anyone else has been in a similar situation to me before.

as it says, I’m at wits end. I’m 24f with 31m partner, my 1 year old daughter’s father.

He works full time as a support worker, generating most of the income to support the three of us. I am on PIP, as I have many physical health conditions, including fibromyalgia.
long story short, to unwind on his days off, my partner spends numerous hours on the cursed bloody Xbox. This has been the topic of many arguments and discussions. I get this is his way of de-stressing, but all it does to me is STRESS me tf out.
I’m constantly looking after our daughter, hardly ever have time to do anything for myself which in turn sends my MH into overdrive and plummets. I’m also neurodivergent. So it gets to me very much when I can’t unwind myself. I love my daughter more than anything and she really is a blessing to me.
My partner has pretty much implied that it’s us or the Xbox. We have a mortgage together which makes things more difficult. I’m very close to just walking out and having our own home (myself and daughter) but I feel cruel destroying the family home and potentially giving her a more unstable future, as living where we are now, we pretty much own.
he does help out, and I’m grateful when he does..sometimes it is to the point where I’m begging him to give me 10 minutes to hang the laundry out..
I’m torn.

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Moonnstars · 17/09/2025 18:33

Can you use some of your money to put your daughter into nursery for one day a week?
It sounds like he isn't really interested in having a child and I am guessing he probably thought being with someone younger might mean you wouldn't want that yet either.
In the long term you might be better off without him.

InterestedDad37 · 17/09/2025 18:35

If he's not stepping up to fatherhood and being a good partner, then you don't have to put up with that. It may be hard to organise and do, but you should leave him to play with himself his Xbox

Jackiepumpkinhead · 17/09/2025 18:36

A dad who spends all his free time gaming isn’t a great dad, especially as he’s inferred he’d prioritise his Xbox over you and your daughter. You also shouldn’t be grateful that he occasionally helps you out. Time to think seriously about your future, and that of your young daughter.

didgeridid · 17/09/2025 18:36

If he's giving you an ultimatum like that he's not worth it. No decent human will put a computer above their family

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