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To not work the job I've quit.

26 replies

Froggy93 · 17/09/2025 13:30

I handed my notice in in July. The requirement was 4 weeks but I ended up working 8 weeks notice because it's a small business (I was the only full time employee) and I wanted to give the owner the best chance to find a replacement. She turned several people down and finally found the right replacement, but she couldn't start before my agreed end date.

I went into work early and left late for 2 weeks solid and brought work home with me on the weekends to make sure everything was in order. I also wrote a detailed handover document for the new manager.

My last day was last Saturday. It's the second day of the shop being open without me there and I've had multiple phone calls and texts asking very basic questions that they should already know or should be able to work out themselves.

I know it's only the first few days but it's hardly been the relaxing start to my time off that I wanted. Am I being unreasonable to not want to work the job I spent 2 months quitting?

OP posts:
didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 17/09/2025 13:32

It sounds like they took advantage of you and will continue to take advantage of you until you tell them to piss off

Starrystarrysky · 17/09/2025 13:32

That's ridiculous. Either ignore or charge a steep consultancy fee for your time. Absolutely don't be helping them out for free!

TwelvePercent · 17/09/2025 13:34

Turn your phone off for the rest of the day or as a minimum decline the calls.

Or if you prefer, offer to continue to work on a day rate of double whatever you were on.

Greenwitchart · 17/09/2025 13:37

Just ignore them...

Francestein · 17/09/2025 13:38

Block

CasualDayHasGoneTooFar · 17/09/2025 13:38

Just don't answer.

You're not quitting, you have left

TheSwarm · 17/09/2025 13:41

Sounds like you were already more than generous with your time as you left, but unless they want to continue to pay you then they can obviously fuck off.

JustGoClickLikeALightSwitch · 17/09/2025 13:42

Phone off or block number.

thepariscrimefiles · 17/09/2025 14:14

I hope they paid you for all the extra hours that you worked.

Do not do any more work for them. You don't work for them any more.

MolluscMonday · 17/09/2025 14:16

Maybe use this time as an opportunity to reflect on your boundaries?

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Froggy93 · 18/09/2025 09:29

Guys thank you so much for your responses! I really appreciate it!

Little insane update, the owner called yesterday and told me "she needed" me to come in (!!) and see a difficult customer. I said no but eventually agreed to be paid to go in. And she DIDN'T WANT TO PAY ME.

I've set the precedent by doing extra work out of hours but it blows my mind that she'd expect me to drive into work, work 2 hours and be customer facing without compensation when I NO LONGER WORK THERE.

I really didn't want to block but even small businesses need some professional standards.

OP posts:
Toesy · 18/09/2025 09:32

Block her. You have made an awful dorrmat of yourself.
You have been and are being used.

Original poster
Froggy93 · 18/09/2025 09:33

Toesy · 18/09/2025 09:32

Block her. You have made an awful dorrmat of yourself.
You have been and are being used.

I couldn't agree more! Never too late to grow a backbone!

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didgeridid · 18/09/2025 09:39

Do not answer! Lazy arses

AmberFrost · 18/09/2025 09:44

I know someone who retired years ago and had to change their landline as he was getting calls everyday about problems not of his making .

Peteryourhorseisheree · 18/09/2025 09:47

Fuck that. You already did too much. The business isn’t your concern. Who cares if they couldn’t find a replacement? That really wasn’t your problem. You should have worked your notice period, and only the 4 weeks required and left.

I’d block the number.

Tubestrike · 18/09/2025 09:47

Send one last message saying that you no longer work there and will not be answering any more calls. If you carry on helping them, then you only have yourself to blame.

Peteryourhorseisheree · 18/09/2025 09:47

Froggy93 · 18/09/2025 09:29

Guys thank you so much for your responses! I really appreciate it!

Little insane update, the owner called yesterday and told me "she needed" me to come in (!!) and see a difficult customer. I said no but eventually agreed to be paid to go in. And she DIDN'T WANT TO PAY ME.

I've set the precedent by doing extra work out of hours but it blows my mind that she'd expect me to drive into work, work 2 hours and be customer facing without compensation when I NO LONGER WORK THERE.

I really didn't want to block but even small businesses need some professional standards.

JFC, I’d have burst out laughing and put the phone down.

bitterexwife · 18/09/2025 09:48

Froggy93 · 18/09/2025 09:29

Guys thank you so much for your responses! I really appreciate it!

Little insane update, the owner called yesterday and told me "she needed" me to come in (!!) and see a difficult customer. I said no but eventually agreed to be paid to go in. And she DIDN'T WANT TO PAY ME.

I've set the precedent by doing extra work out of hours but it blows my mind that she'd expect me to drive into work, work 2 hours and be customer facing without compensation when I NO LONGER WORK THERE.

I really didn't want to block but even small businesses need some professional standards.

This is shocking to me! The nerve!
I’m totally gobsmacked.

are you going to a new job? If so, when do you start?

TheSwarm · 18/09/2025 09:48

Froggy93 · 18/09/2025 09:29

Guys thank you so much for your responses! I really appreciate it!

Little insane update, the owner called yesterday and told me "she needed" me to come in (!!) and see a difficult customer. I said no but eventually agreed to be paid to go in. And she DIDN'T WANT TO PAY ME.

I've set the precedent by doing extra work out of hours but it blows my mind that she'd expect me to drive into work, work 2 hours and be customer facing without compensation when I NO LONGER WORK THERE.

I really didn't want to block but even small businesses need some professional standards.

Why are you agreeing to that? Presumably if you have quit you have another job to go to or you don't need the money.

Send 1 final message and block, otherwise in 2 years time you are still going to be getting contacted.

Not2identifying · 18/09/2025 09:49

Might you need a reference one day? If so, I'd schedule a conversation with her and explain that, right now, you're a random member of the public and she can't just expect favours or be regularly contacting you. You could suggest that she cope by herself for a month, keep a detailed list of the knowledge or skills gap, and then pay you, at consultancy rates, for a day or two to go over the list. You'll feel better if there's a plan.

anytipswelcome · 18/09/2025 09:49

“I feel I need to be very clear, I am no longer your employee so am unable to help with matters related to your business. I wish you all the best but won’t be responding to further requests for business support.”

Not2identifying · 18/09/2025 09:49

Or, what @anytipswelcome said.

mbosnz · 18/09/2025 09:50

I had a 'boss' from a job that I left before being pushed out, ring me on the first day of my new job, expecting me to take him, step by step, through doing the pays.

He couldn't believe it when I said that no, sorry, I'd not be doing that, I'd be giving my full attention to my new employers, who weren't a bunch of arseholes and hung up on him.

One of the better moments of my life. . .

Please do something similar, you deserve it - and so do they!

Friendlygingercat · 18/09/2025 09:58

What all the previous posters have said. Jeeeezzzze the cheek!

When I was working I didnt even take phone calls when it was my day off or on holiday. Emails were responded with an out of office.

Even smartphones have a "block" mechanism.