Advice on contact

[Rosabell24]

Hello ,
just seeking some advice
recently split from my abusive ex whom we share a 2 year old child following a incident where the police were called and he caused criminal damage. We have had no contact since.
he’s never had our child unsupervised, we have never lived together and there are multiple reasons for this (substance abuse, inconsistent and not capable) all these issues arose during my pregnancy. He’s never been perfect but never had this many issues.
I was just going to ask if it seems unreasonable for every other weekend daytime supervised contact (handover through a friend or family member) until we are able to have a c100 in place ?
thanks in advance :)

Is this his suggestion or yours? Don’t feel you have to facilitate access, it may be better if he just fades away

Hes more pushing for every weekend (when he’s available obviously) and I don’t see him ever fading away as such because it’s all an act for everyone that he’s an amazing dad, everyone believes it for some reason! I feel very pressured by him and every one around him constantly.

Definitely no overnights and make sure the supervised person is someone of your choosing.

It’s not UR for supervised contact and infact anything else would be unwise given what you share here.
i hope he gets its act together for the child sake.

Assuming that you work weekdays, every other weekend is the fairest starting point so you can chill with your son and take him to see your side of the family.

Every weekend usually doesn’t last because of new romances, wanting to go out with friends etc

Thank you for your replies. I do work weekdays and his hours are also scattered so cant set a day during the week , he’s also not allowed to my property which makes it even harder for our child’s routine.
I totally agree and think I am being reasonable however I am always made to feel guilty even though I’ve made numerous attempts to get him to step up for our child. It’s such an awful feeling not being able to trust the other parent on their own.
I hope one day he can be a good dad, I just have to prioritise our child’s safety first and also stability. Has anyone else had similar experiences?