Christmas

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I have been with my DP for 4 years now. Since I met him we have spent Christmas at his mother and fathers house. We have a Daughter and this will be her third Christmas. I would really like to spend Christmas in our own house as a family of three this year. My DP has spent every Christmas at his mother's. He is now 37. It is just expected of him to be there at Christmas. I know his mum will be upset if he doesn't go.

AIBU wanting to have Christmas with just the three of us in our own house this year?

Do you not have any family of your own?

YANBU to not want to spend every Christmas with your partner's family.

Yanbu go boxing day instead?

No I don't think you are unreasonable. You could either go the day before or after or in the evening instead. It can be really hard to put boundaries in around big holidays like Christmas, is your MIL normally quite understanding/reasonable? Will your partner likely stand up to his mother if he understands that it's important to you? Do you normally see your own family another day? I don't see why doing that with his could be made into a big deal if you do

Can you agree that you will alternate and one year it’s your choice and then it’s his?

We started staying at home as our own family when our first DC was born. It’s served us well and there are plenty other days to se efamily.

We stay at home and invite anyone who is totally on their own. Otherwise it's just us and I love it. There is no way I'd go to my in-laws every Christmas and I really love my PILs