Was this rude of her?

[Pengualin10]

I work in my DD school, I just recently started. A parent I know from my DD year came in today for a ’meet the teacher’ thing after school and when walking past me said ‘’oh, thingies mum works here now, what’s all that about’ to her son/in passing to me? Word for word. Was this rude of her?

I don't understand.

A little, but if a comment like that is going to bother you, I'd consider looking for another school. It's a fairly common sort of comment from an obviously not very friendly parent.

By ‘thingie’s mum’ did she mean you? Because if yes, that was very rude because she knew you could hear.

Perhaps she couldn’t remember your child’s name so called you thingy because she realised that in a school setting you would be Mrs… rather than known by your first name.

Very rude.

It was very rude of her.
Do you think she might be a bit jealous because she might of liked a job at the school?

Depends on her tone I’d say. I sometimes say that to mean “isn’t that wild?” but in a positive way? Hard to explain. Do you think the tone was more of disbelief?

"What's all that about" is you earning a living. What is she on about.

OP, you were there. If you don’t know whether it was rude, I suspect strangers on the internet aren’t going to. What did you think might be rude? Not remembering your child’s name? Not greeting you? Asking her child ‘what’s that all about?’

Yes it was rude but you will need to develop a thicker skin if you are going to work in a school.

From the way you put it, it does sound rude but actually it could be interpreted differently - she could be saying thingys mum (as she either doesn't remember your name or she doesn't know your school name of Miss/Mrs and is perhaps hoping her child will say) plus the what's the all about is just some people's casual way of talking (so maybe she is meaning when did she start, what's the all about, which class is she in).

At least half the TAs where I work have children in the school, myself included.

Did she say "thingie" or are you using that as a placeholder for your DD's name? I wouldn't call it rude as such, she just couldn't remember your DD's name

Its a nothing comment

I've been called "thingy's mum" to my face! As in, oh i know you, you're er thingy's mum aren't you. Some people just talk like that, engaging brain before opening gob.

It's not very polite but not intentionally rude (I hope) either.

Did she say "thingie" or are you using that as a placeholder for your DD's name? I wouldn't call it rude as such, she just couldn't remember your DD's name

Its a nothing comment tbh

Definitely rude. Well, you’ve got the measure of her now. Just give her a wide berth.

I think it could be just the way she talks. As in a sort of curiosity - oh, they're working here now. I would just treat it as a throwaway comment from someone a bit tactless.