to ask if you've ever quietly changed your life and how?

[Swimfiend]

Looking for a bit of a reset and to try and improve, enjoy my life more - to do the things I love rather than simply thinking about it or making endless lists and to feel better and healthier in myself with more energy.

Ultimately, I need to spice my life up I suppose and I'm looking for tips/advice/inspiration if you've ever managed to profoundly change your life in quiet ways?

Moving jobs/countries/trekking across the world isn't really possible for me. What I really want is to just fall in love with myself and my life if that makes sense, to meet more people I love and can spend time with - although doing endless hobbies trying to find them makes me feel exhausted.

I like your framing of seeking to "fall in love with myself and my life" OP, and the emphasis on doing it without Hollywood levels of drama. Some really good accounts on here from PP too.

I don't have this sussed by any means, but my life has massively improved in the last 18 months by choosing to invest in myself in 2 related ways. I put myself on Mounjaro and signed up for strength and fitness gym classes 4 times a week. I haven't told anyone about the Mounjaro at all, it's for me and my health and I don't want to feel I have to justify it. In my mid 50s I'm now fitter and in better shape than I've ever been before.

The knock-on effects have been profound, from having more energy for activities and projects and the strength to do them, having much more confidence in myself as someone who was capable of getting fit when i believed myself incapable, to just feeling better and enjoying everything, even mundane things, more for liking myself more.

The projects and things I now have the oomph to do enrich my life, and doing them in a healthy body with a happier outlook make them twice as good, so its a double whammy.

My other 7 things vary hugely from month to month. This month they are:
Declutter 100 things
Rearrange the sitting room
Complete charity accounts (im a volunteer treasurer)
Try 5 new artists on Apple music
Do my tax return
Buy birthday presents for my September and October birthday folk
Park five minutes from school and get the kids to scoot in

Often I put things I've been putting off onto my list so I can get a sense of achievement when they're done!

I did it about 20 years ago OP, after a messy divorce - ex-DH kept most of our mutual friends, I had to reinvent myself and make a whole new lot. It wasn't easy at the time but now I think it was absolutely the best thing I could have done

A few things that helped me:

• as PP have described, saying yes to events/ invitations that I usually wouldn't have tried. I mean of course there were a few times that I wished I hadn't made the effort, but on the whole it broadened my horizons considerably and helped with becoming more sociable/ making new friends; I went to an Alpha course with one new friend and really enjoyed it, made friends there too.
• trying out new dance classes until I found one I liked (Ceroc!) - really friendly, can go as little or as much as you like, no partner needed, very affordable night out.
• volunteering at different events - did some bar work for one charity, some outdoor work for another, joined Cubs as a helper - just good fun and again, you can just do an hour a week or volunteer for plenty more if you like. My Cubs role helped me to get my current job.

Now trying to follow your example and think of a more up to date way of changing my life, as my DC are almost at secondary school and I'm old and tired after ten years of relentless childcare