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New job and I bloody hate it.

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missynoma · 15/09/2025 16:12

Has anyone ever moved from a job they loved but couldn't afford to do anymore (wasn't being paid enough to cover living costs) to another job that just hasn't turned out to be what they thought it would be? This job pays more (7k), and on paper and in interview was a really exciting opportunity. Turns out it is not what I expected and there are a lot of things I'm doing that I just wasn't expecting. I'm looking after their customer data platform and I had no idea this would be my responsibility - it isn't stated in the job description and wasn't at interview. I hate it. I'm already looking for new jobs but think it just looks really shit to go from one job to another so soon. I've only been in this job for nearly 5 months. I'm so, so bored. Has anyone else started a job they hated? If yes what did you do?

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TMMC1 · 15/09/2025 17:15

I'm slightly confused here. You say you are taking on more responsibility than you expected AND that you are bored. I've re read what you have said several times, for me there are lots of gaps and missing bits of information to really offer any comprehensive advice. For example, you don't mention the people you work with and for or those that work for you. From my perspective that's significant to any job satisfaction too.

Regardless of that, I'd ask for a 6month review and listen a lot to the feedback you are given. Then discuss your job spec, and how you think it needs to be re written to reflect what you do or where your strengths are. Point out the aspects you weren't expecting and chat around who in the team is better positioned to be taking them on.

deirdrerasheed · 15/09/2025 17:19

Are you having a meeting at 6 months. You could raise your concerns then?

missynoma · 15/09/2025 17:29

TMMC1 · 15/09/2025 17:15

I'm slightly confused here. You say you are taking on more responsibility than you expected AND that you are bored. I've re read what you have said several times, for me there are lots of gaps and missing bits of information to really offer any comprehensive advice. For example, you don't mention the people you work with and for or those that work for you. From my perspective that's significant to any job satisfaction too.

Regardless of that, I'd ask for a 6month review and listen a lot to the feedback you are given. Then discuss your job spec, and how you think it needs to be re written to reflect what you do or where your strengths are. Point out the aspects you weren't expecting and chat around who in the team is better positioned to be taking them on.

I don't think bored always equals not enough work to do? Just monotonous. Things that weren't mentioned at interview or in the job description. And the things that were haven't yet materialised.

The people I work with are nice enough but I work from home so rarely see them. I don't have managerial responsibilities so nobody works for me. They may well do in the future depending on how the team expands (small organisation).

They do a 5 month review then an 8 month review. The feedback was good, they're happy with my work, think I'm doing a great job etc etc. I work really hard despite not enjoying it, but it's just not what I expected. The customer relations person apparently left just before I started so I suspect I've just absorbed a lot of her work as they have said she won't be replaced. I didn't know this before I started and believe she was still there when I was offered the job.

My question is more around whether you would leave a job so soon, if it looks bad on your CV etc, if other people have felt the same and what they did.

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missynoma · 15/09/2025 17:30

deirdrerasheed · 15/09/2025 17:19

Are you having a meeting at 6 months. You could raise your concerns then?

I had one at 5 months, I told my manager that I was struggling with certain aspects as I had never done them before and the in house training isn't really up to scratch (said in kinder terms) but she just redirected me to YouTube. I definitely need to be more explicit but it's very hard when you're still in your probationary period.

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Enterthewolves · 15/09/2025 17:32

I left my last job after four months - nobody in my current job raised an eyebrow. I think if it is out of kilter with your history people realise it must have been something odd. If I asked I just say it was a bad fit.

OnARainyDay2012 · 15/09/2025 17:54

I think if it's one job it's fine. I would consider it a red flag if you had multiple positions of less than a year in quick succession.

TMMC1 · 15/09/2025 18:00

ok. I misunderstood, I thought you were doing everything in your job spec + more.
In that situation I would be talking to them about your job spec and what you are expecting.
I don't have an issue with you moving role so soon and wouldn't if I was recruiting/interviewing you. I'd actually trust you more for being honest and realistic and not staying in the wrong role. That's a strentgh.

ClearlyUnfashionable · 15/09/2025 18:15

OP I'm in a similar situation.
I'm 3 months in, I have the same job title as my previous role but moved sector (out of charity) and got a £9k pay rise (£31k->£40k).
Despite the same job title/ v similar job description, my last job was so much more interesting and I had a lot more autonomy. I'm bored already in my new job, really stuck on what I should do to fix it. I don't think there's much room for me to carve out my position in a way I'd end up being happy, the job is all about doing things consistently in the same way as others in the team.

I actually think it's probably ok to start applying elsewhere- nothing ventured, nothing gained. It's just I need to make sure the next move is 'definitely right' as if I ended up wanting a quick exit next time, two in a row is suddenly not so good on the cv.

I went somewhere small to somewhere big - and I want to go back smaller. I had a feeling I wouldn't like the big environment but the money was obviously too tempting! When applying now, I will explain very briefly I found the big environment too bureaucratic and pitch it that I'm a 'do-er' and need an environment that is more dynamic. I reckon it will be fine, but as I mentioned above, I just need to make sure I really pick my next move well as I'll definitely need to stick it out there for a while.

ClearlyUnfashionable · 15/09/2025 18:15

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