Does anyone else ever feel like they’re drowning.

[Lifeneedsaresetagain]

I feel like I'm drowning and don't know how to reset. I've been the main/only earner for 10 years and husband faffs around pretending to be self employed then complains when he gets work. 3 years ago we left London sold our house there and moved to the Cotswolds we've been doing a house up non stop for 3 years. All the financial pressure is on me in those 3 years I've put on 30lbs I'm continuously chained to my desk, I run my own consulting business and feel like I need a compete reset as in to stand all clients down, and spend q4 prioritising myself. Get the weight off, enjoy long dog walks, ditch the alchol and have a reset and come back to the business in January.

@saywhatdidhesay I’m 42 and it’s not menopause or perimenopause or hormonal I've been checked everything is fine.

Do you need to keep the house? Do you need to keep the husband? 😉 If you ditch both of them I'm sure you'll find yourself not only floating, but sailing.
(He's letting you drown. Unless he's caring for children or talking some other weight off from you, or has his own source of income, there's no excuse for "doing creative work for charity" and letting you carry everything)

That's exactly what I'm thinking. I feel like I've had no time to myself in years.

@BoredZelda its both of us. But I'm the one have to take his mum shopping as they just argue.

Then for me its 100% what you should do
Just be committed to using the time to reset.
Join the gym, especially one that might have a sauna, steam room etc to distress in
Eat in a calorie deficit - losing weight mostly happens here

Read the books you have been meaning to - both for fun and for learning

Restart an old hobby/learn a new one...something where you will see a result, maybe crochet a cardigan - fashionable and attainable

Therapy, if you feel need it

Priorise what you need from the three months. Only take them off if you are going to put YOU at the centre.

Don't spend three months doomscrolling, sleeping and stopping around.

You deserve the time. You are your priority and you are important enough for this investment

He needs to get a proper job.

Who’s the “we” here.
If HE isn’t working then surely caring for his parents is his problem not yours!

I am absolutely livid on your behalf. You have to take his mum shopping on top of everything else because he and she argue? Do you have children? If not I would be absolutely off like a shot.