AIBU to cancel 4th days?

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I’ve been chatting to come one for nearly 8 weeks, met 2 weeks ago and had 3 dates. Next date is this week. For the first 6/7 weeks communication was via text and was mostly daily. It was only 1/2 texts but kept the momentum going. Last date was Wednesday but I didn’t hear from him Thursday to Sunday. For me that’s too long and now I just don’t want to go in the date. I just feel like all connection has gone by not having communication for 3 days which I know probably sounds ridiculous.

YANBU- 3 days is quite long when dating and if this is his style it’s probably going to get worse and cause you more stress.

YABU- the date was arranged so the interest is there. 3 days isn’t that long. Just go with the flow and go in the date.

NuffSaidSam · Today 12:39

Did you message him between Thursday and Sunday?

No I didn’t. I was last to text Thursday and we do usually ‘take in turns’. I have anxiety and possible ocd regarding dating and relationships so struggle with what is normal or acceptable and fear becoming over bearing so tend to let the other person lead the communication. He did text yesterday but by then I’d had it in my head it had lost interest.

She said that she didnt contact him between Thursday & Sunday.

What happened on the last date? Was it fun and passionate?

It’s exhausting isn’t it 😭

it Was a bit stressful as I needed to get back and our food took a very long time but yes it seemed to go fine and we did have a kiss at the end which he initiated.

Without being crass, he was probably hoping for sex as it was your 3rd date.

Honestly after 7 weeks of talk and then 3 dates if sparks aren't flying by now they're probably never going to be- which might be why he's eased off.

No offence but the "i'm not double texting" view is a bit of a thing a 14 year old would say.

What was the tone of the message when he did reply to you after those three days?

I wouldn’t necessarily be put off having the fourth date but I’d suspend how invested I was in it until I could gauge it all a bit better.

To be fair though the opportunity wasn’t even there as we had gone out for food, food took soooo long to come and then I had to leave at 8 which we both knew before hand but didn’t expect to but in the pub waiting for food for so long. I did feel that there was a spark there but there wasn’t the opportunity for anything more than a quick kiss.

Well I do feel that the messages contained less effort than previous but then I suppose we had had quite a bit of face to face contact in less than a week. They were just one line and not really any questions, just a response to me.