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Can I get a job after long time at home fo children and mental ill health

You can, yes.

Hop onto Indeed with a CV and apply for work

You might find that you need to do some volunteer work to gain some transferable skills. But apply for a few jobs and see what happens

How will your MH affect your work?

Edit - as pp said, Christmas jobs might be a perfect place to start. Temporary ......so you can try out the work and the job will give you skills to add to your CV

Do you want to get a job?
I had 3 years at home as a sahp after having a breakdown. I didn’t know exactly what I wanted to do but I did want it to be within a 30 min drive from my house (peak) part time and minimal after school care needed. This narrowed things down a lot so I did some research into what was available with my restrictions in place. I got a lunchtime supervisor role in a school first as the hours worked perfectly but unfortunately I didn’t enjoy it so after 6 months I looked for another job and found a part time customer service role which I’ve been in 5 years now. It’s two days a week and quite an easy repetitive job so it works well for me. I applied for probably around twenty jobs (similar roles) that I either got no reply or interviewed but didn’t get the job before I found this one.

Yes I'd love to in just unsure where to begin,I've been out of work s good 5 years, before done dental nursing and also retail/cafes too but my main 'career' is dental assistant/reception/nurse, but not since 2020 so a long time and in nearly 40, due to things I wish wasn't a gap like this, what would you do if me? I don't have time constraints really I have teenage lives with me but he 16 so doesn't need me every second and not too hard but i really don't know where I can start

Im not sure what to write tbh for the large gap, would you be honest because it's undeseriable tbh so I don't know if to be really honest or full this gap, I want to work so much so im not very bothered with what, but I want it to suit me because I want it to last but I don't know what to write in the spots for years gap, can still get a job?

Course you can. It's five years! It's not too long. I'd be honest and say the truth

I think it will be off putting, it's alcoholism and poor mental health from that. I don't even want to write it myself! But also I need to plug the gaps in my employment history and I honestly dunno how, it's blocking me a bit as I don't really have much to write and I feel a bit useless

I just want to make a start tbh but what do I say in my employment history is patchy and I don't really have a career, it's just jobs but I want to apply for jobs but I honestly don't know where I begin after this

I start applications and when comes to all the questions, I lose confidence, like things like tell me a time you delivered excellent customer service, suppose standard question, I can't answer it because I don't know what to say and tbh I probably haven't delivered excellent customer services ever really, this is what stops because I feel unconfident/ un-skilled, all really tbh, I think im normal and in my jobs I was pleasant enough but not excellent customer just normal I think, this is why I have no idea where do I start to even think about or get into work again, for myself really top, it's not gonna make big difference money wise but for myself anyway and I have a lot of time to fill, im bored a lot, and I need to do sometjing but what, and where do I begin when I haven't had any In 5 yrs, even teens will get over me in shops? I don't know and I feel bit stuck and not sure what even first couples of steps is, I'd love it if someone just give me step or 2 to get started, im Like this I need to get started, in in or out kind of person im lacking confidence experience and that it really 😂 im not looking for a career, I think part time, 30 ISH hours or admin but I honestly don't know where I begin as im so so out of it,I don't actually believe transferable skills as it's been a really long time and really down im out of work but I need it for myself

Thankyou, I don't want to be fully honest because it's not desirable or good and heavily judged so I can't write this, and I don't think I want to disclose? Should I? Id rather not I've been sober 2 years but it was extreme end so yeah ok really Starting from the bottom tbh

Maybe look for min customer facing roles to start with?

A lot of part time jobs round here seem to be working in warehouses doing package shifting/loading unloading/office cleaning ect.

You'll still need to come across as reliable obvs, but less emphasis on wanting proof of being able to be sparkling in front of customers 🤪

I know how you feel - i went back to work after an even bigger gap than you. If you go on Indeed and fill out the online forms it can help. Also i think these days employers are more understanding about mental health struggles. You can put 'mental health' without having to go into details. 'Caring for family members' also 👍

Yeah I understand it's not desirable at all and it's judged, but I've been sober 2 years, not huge but enough id like to build my life without disclosing that tbh as as you say it's not nice, and your judged I think. So where do I start, please tell me, I apply to shops and literally all local as ok not too fussed,it's more about filling time keeping me busy and yeah that kind of thing rather than career which im happy with too

I want a job anything tbh but about 20-40 hours is think is good,but I just feel so out, I did have children in this time and I did work too (2020) but maybe it's how im looking at it rather than? I don't know, i don't mind to start bottom at all!!! But even just Aldi, shops,anything uhskillled, I do think they do overlook where I am for younger etc, I just want a little job local enough this will really help me with routine and just doing something tbh

I know how to look for jobs, I live SW London so not a lack of jobs in what im looking for which is a job not a career, so anyone saying to go uni and to study it's not applicable, it's not possible right now, Id ideally a low stress medium hours job. But yeah it's maybe me and im confidence and not knowing how to answer basic interview questions because honestly I think I haven't delivered excellent customer service, alright, id give it that maximum, do other ppl make this stuff elaborate? Im pleasant enough and I think it's ok but no I don't have all this example at the top of my head, so what do you say to those kinda things?

That's where I get stuck those kind of questions and I feel so lacking I don't even answer, and if I answered I dunno what to write too... I can write in pleasant and nice but I feel Its not after so do we elaborate a bit?

That's really helped, thank you, im obviously out of date a bit but mainly it's confidence I do have these normal skills,so talking to patient is just normal, I wouldnt write it as a job description or something I good at. So maybe in going wrong in that way as I don't really see as a skill,just more a normal thing I think if makes sebse

How long have you been sober?
If less than 12 months, I think the step program advises against big life changes?

STAR does help to put things in order and lots of employers are using it.
Make sure you use "I" not "we". They are asking about what you did, not others.
https://nationalcareers.service.gov.uk/careers-advice/interview-advice/the-star-method

5 years is nothing. Just say you were caring for children or something.

Everyone has some good examples BUT it is bloody hard to do yout own shoulder patting. Give it time, google examples, see that many are quite easy especially for non management roles.

2 years is massive. Well done.

It's nearly 2 years, but it hasn't been plain planning since too, it's been our own stuff too so bereavement,money, children on top I was very bad with alcohol and that's mainly why I wasn't in employment, and I don't want to because for starters its not applicable and it's very personal and not something I can go in or not so it's massive thing, im not talking oh a few too many drinks im talking about full on end stage alcoholism, so I why I want a kind of part time and quite easy lie stress job to start me off minimum and go from there, I do need it broken down a little I think is helpful

I wouldn't mention mental health, just say you have been a stay at home mum and leave it at that

Job Centres can help and advise you on this - a lot of them have a referral service where they can refer you on to a specialist advisor for people who are finding it difficult to get into work/back into work. One of my friends works for a service like that and she has various clients who have been out of work for a long time and/or have additional challenges like disabilities, health issues, language barriers, decades out of the job market etc that she supports to find work.