For thinking its rude to ask to bring a person for someones birtdhayparty?

[Thecuddlymeoow]

So the popular words. «Can i bring (name) to your party?»

Ofc a person i barely know or don’t even know at all. I have no problem people meeting other people or friends when we go to the clubbing, but in the birthday celebration at my home i rather just have my closest people there, because why would i want a random person on my special day? Sometimes it makes me a but upset, because my tought is that they want to bring this person because they think my party is boring and need this person for them to have fun.. even tought im never invited to any of those peoples parties or birthdays. I also have a bff who tried inviting her lil sister to my partners birthday celebration at our home its was ok for him but i found it a lil rude since my bff invited her before even asking him at the party (her lil sis didn’t show up because it was to far.)

so how can i write in the facebook invitation to make it CLEAR that only invited people can come? My partners friend who is a nice guy is also invited ofc but i feel like he asks my bf if he can invite someone even if im the birthday person.. in my list we are total 10-11 people i want there

sorry if my english is bad but i try my best <3

It would be rude if they just turned up with someone else. Asking is fine, imo. If you don’t want them to, you say ‘no’.

The more the merrier?

Just say “sorry but we really don’t have the space and I’ve had to cut the guest list down to just my absolute nearest and dearest, so on this occasion I’m going to have to say no. Would be nice to meet them another time.”

Asking is fine.
declining is fine.

writing passive aggressive invites to s not fine

I don't think there's anything wrong in asking even if it is your 'special day', but of course you're free to refuse.

I would just say something like 'Sorry, no plus ones', if you don't want them.

Yeah, they are being fairly rude for a small party like yours. I understand why it would make you feel a bit sad actually.

If this is a formal sit down dinner then it should only be their you’ve invited, if it’s a party then you need to chill out and get a grip

@Hillrunning Thanks we are usually a bit more open for it if its just a causal party as long as we have space for it. But for my birthday i just love to have the people who mean something to me.

@SpringIsSprung1 i feel like birthday party dont belong in the more the merrier because those people don’t care about me and only about partying.

@Shoemadlady why so? We aren’t allowed to have the people we want anymore without having tons of random people on or own celebration? Food or not

If it's 'could I bring my sister who is visiting from Australia and staying with me that weekend' I would think it a reasonable request. If it's just 'could I bring my mate Jo from my yoga class' then more likely a no.

You sound very uptight. Surely, unless it's a sit down dinner party the more the merrier. What sort of party are you having?

@Pollqueen i don’t understand the phase « the more the merrier» what if i don’t want more? What if only want my closest?

Just say ''no plus ones please''. Though I'd just verbally say no if anyone asked.