Just being friendly or more?

[Clarabella123456]

I'm unsure if my ex was just being friendly or to read a bit more into it. He dumped me a few years ago.

We are in the same venue, haven't spoken since breakup, I'm with my cousin, he's with his brother, I spot him, he spots me, comes bounding over enthusiastically, taps me on the arm, asks me how I am, says it's nice to see me. Took me a bit by surprise as I never thought we'd speak again after how things ended.

AIBU - he's just being friendly
AINBU - sounds like he could be hoping to reconnect or something

From what you’ve written- just being friendly. Was there more that made you wonder? Do you want to reconnect with him?!

Feels like a bit more to me. If things ended badly and you’ve both moved on, I would expect a wave and an awkward hello but this sounds like more.

Yes, I was quite surprised he came over, especially as I was with my cousin

It feels unlikely that he wanted to reconnect to me since it had to have been spur of the moment behaviour because he wouldn’t have known you were there.

Either wants to reconnect, or wants something else.

Would be cautious.

It was just much more friendly than I would ever have expected... I doubted he'd ever even wave at me again, even though it was him that ended the relationship.

Is your cousin female? If so do you think he just wanted to speak to her?

was he drunk?

Sounds like the friendly sort of thing you say to someone you haven't seen for ages, ex or not.

Yes, she's female and married, and he knows this

The facts are he was being friendly and he is an ex. Exes are exes for a reason. He didn't ask to see you again, so dont try to look deeper into this.

Sounds to me like he was a bit concerned it would be awkward to be in the same venue without saying hello, but still actually felt awkward, so was more enthusiastic than he felt.

It doesn’t sound like anything more than trying to avoid being rude.

You’re asking the wrong question here. Focus on your feelings and wishes, not whether someone who dumped you years ago might be prepared to undump you.

I'd never go back there, I'm totally content and happy now, so glad I'd a lucky escape. just his enthusiasm surprised me, that's all, I felt it was over the top.

Maybe he hated how it ended and was just glad to have the chance to say hi.

Was he drunk?

No, not a drinking venue.

He probably felt awkward and uncomfortable so overcompensated.

Thanks, all. The general consensus seems to be he was just being friendly, which I am happy about.