To feel like we've bitten off more than we can chew moving house?

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We moved into a new house this week and I’m already questioning whether we’ve made a huge mistake.

We’ve come from Stockport to try and make a fresh start. I’ve taken on more hours at the hospital and DH is doing bits of joinery/handyman work where he can, but it’s all feeling very overwhelming already. Boxes everywhere, the boiler sounds dodgy (of course 🙄), and the kids are all reacting differently.

Eldest (18) is off to uni this month and half the time she’s got one foot out the door already. Middle one (15) is moody and glued to his phone, keeps muttering that he “hates this place.” Youngest (9) seems fine but I can tell she’s picking up on the tension.

DH keeps saying it’ll all be worth it once we’re settled, but he’s not the one chasing three different schools, new GP, sorting bills, etc. I feel like I’m holding everything together with string.

AIBU to admit I’m already regretting it a bit? Did anyone else move house and feel like they’d made the wrong call at first? Please tell me it gets easier.

Why is your DH not “chasing three different schools, new GP, sorting bills, etc.”? A problem shared is a problem halved and all that…

It IS a lot to move house. You don’t have to do it all in a day. Prioritize making the house or at least key rooms livable. Then sort out admin stuff around bills and schools. Then doctors and other stuff. Assign tasks over a few weeks and then divide and conquer. Make sure you give yourselves to switch off and have takeaway and movie night as well!

If you're working full time + extra hours and your DH is doing odd jobs he needs to start shouldering more of the adminstration tasks.

I moved across the country last year. It is A LOT just deal with the emergencies and shove anything you can deal with more slowly in the shed/garage. Then just one box at a time. It's been a year, we're fully settled, decorated, sorted and now I'm very slowly scrutinising each drawer, shelf, box and making sure there's nothing in this house that shouldn't be here.