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Ex at door shouting through intercom that I am ripping him off.

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VenusJupiter · 14/09/2025 17:30

I applied for CM for DD . Ex basically asked us to leave and was a complete narcissistic bully when I was staying with him.
He also twisted everything and my mum believed him..

Anyway he has since been at my entrance door( I refuse to let him up) buzzing and shouting down the intercom that I am ripping him off. I take it CM have contacted him.

I will not allow him in and I'm worried he runs off with DD. I'm not allowing him to see her and I'm thinking now to go for full PR.

I can't co parent with him as all he has done is lie to HV, SW and GP etc. They are aware that it's fabricated because all he did was work 24/7 and meet his mate when DD was 2 - 3 months. DD is on her way to being 6 months.

Everytime he has seen us in the street he never acknowledges her and goes straight for me , filming me , calling me selfish.. I don't know what he thinks his filming of me is going to achieve.

Sometimes I feel guilty because she has reached so many milestones , but I really am dealing with a narcissistic man child.

I feel legal action is the only way forward.

He applied for her passport , withheld it from her , refuses to hand it over and also won't give me the seat for her pram to convert it from a basinette to sitting up.

I could go on, but won't. I went through HELL with this so called man.

Now he is saying I'm ripping him off by going to CM.
He hasn't bothered to bring any formula etc for her.

OP posts:
StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 14/09/2025 21:37

The burden of proof is on you. Screenshot EVERY text, record every call. I'd be very worried about DDs passport. Report it to the police before it escalates.

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 14/09/2025 21:40

Get a ring doorbell or similar - cameras at front and back door

Coldnightsapproachingwhereismyduvet · 14/09/2025 21:41

Start building a case against him. This means reporting every abusive incident /threat /harassment to the police. Report her passport stolen to he can't use it should he ever get hold of your dd.

Sassylovesbooks · 14/09/2025 21:50

You need to seek urgent legal advice. The fact he's obtained a passport in your daughter's name is extremely worrying. It's entirely possible he could abscond with your daughter to Nigeria. You can put something legally in place, that stops him from talking your daughter out of the country. A friend of my husband had to do this, to stop his ex-wife from disappearing back to Venezuela with their son. You need to sort this as a priority. You can't stop your ex from having Parental Responsibility if his name is listed on her birth certificate. Only a Court can take away Parental Responsibility or he can say he no longer wishes to have it. You need to go to Court to state that your daughter lives with you as her primary carer. Unless there's extreme circumstances, your ex will get access to see his daughter, even if it's supervised. A Court can take a dim view on women who appear to be 'stopping' their children from having contact with their Dad. Therefore you need to document every interaction with your ex. Keep a diary. Take screenshots. The more evidence you have the better.

SapphOhNo · 14/09/2025 22:18

Don't deal with this passively OP. Speak to the police now and report everything all the time.

You have to prove everything, evidence is your friend. Keep it all.

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