When you miss your loved one die, race to the hospital and get taken into a little room. The palliative care nurse tells you it was a very peaceful death, your relative went into a very deep relaxing sleep when administered second medication after I had left. They slept deeply for acouple of hours, would not have been able to respond at that point in any way, and vitals dropped all of a sudden, and I was there when it counted, when the person was still responding.
I had been at the hospital for 8-9 hours with my relative who had the death rattle. The nurse told me she didn't think it was imminent, and I could go home for some rest. She said my parent was becoming agitated, so the second medication was on it's way from the hospital pharmacy and would be there quickly as we left.
Are they lying to make you feel better?
This information was given without me asking, and this lady was the most amazing lovely nurse I had ever met; you could not ask for anybody better to be with your relative outside of family. She apologised for saying it was not imminent, and that he deteriorated quickly with the second medication all of a sudden.
I didn't ask any questions as wanted to race to my relative as soon as possible, despite her telling me of the death, it was the way I reacted. I now wish I had asked more questions afterwards.