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Sunday doom - has anyone actually given up the corporate job and salary?

105 replies

Rach247 · 14/09/2025 11:28

I hate my job. Hours and pressure and stress are very high but I’m paid well.

Constantly day-dreaming about packing it in to do something less demanding and genuinely 9-5, work your hours and leave your job at the office, admin type thing. Or something completely different, like being a postie or working in a coffee shop. I know these can be demanding, but in a different way. But the pay would be low by comparison and I have a mortgage and young kids.

Has anyone actually packed in the corporate job for such a lifestyle change, and how did it go?

OP posts:
scandinavianyellow · 14/09/2025 14:19

i get it. It’s hard

harryhole · 14/09/2025 14:22

How old are you?

Peekingovertheparapet · 14/09/2025 14:25

I did - not on purpose, but as an outcome to a reorg. I went from being mid-senior leadership (head of) to a role that still has some thought leadership but is much more in the doing. I took a pay cut of about 15% gross and I’m now in the 9-5 territory (partly because it’s a new role
so I’ve been able to set expectations on output). I’m much happier overall, though we are only a few months in. I know in the fullness of time I will probably want more, and I’m not happy about the career hit, especially as my boss is very nice, but younger and less
experienced than I am. The positives outweigh the negatives right now.

Mumoftwoboysaged4and5 · 14/09/2025 14:27

In my experience of having worked both an admin job on low pay and a high paying corporate job, both were stressful in different ways, but at least with the high paying corporate job, I don’t need to worry about money as much. I will also get to retirement age with a better pension, and if I want to reduce my days in the future, the drop in salary will be manageable.

I also get the Sunday blues, but I just keep thinking, one more month, and then I’ll quit, and it seems to get me through the year.

Jeevesnotwooster · 14/09/2025 14:31

Yes.

I'm back in same field but public sector. A whole lot less money but still well above average salary.

Job is still very challenging at times but not having to compete with colleagues all the time for recognition/remuneration/ respect takes a massive amount of stress away. I also hated trying to win clients. As a bonus I have a lot more work variety now.

CatsMagic · 14/09/2025 14:32

I did it and I don’t regret it OP.

The next 20 years will pass (god willing!) do you want them to pass with you wishing them away or enjoying your time ?

MidnightPatrol · 14/09/2025 14:34

Problem is OP, unless you have wealth to fall back on, you may just find you’re having to work very hard for a lot less money.

heinztomatosoup · 14/09/2025 15:43

I did this. Massively regretted it. I ended up in a job twice as stressful and earned a quarter of
the city salary. Hindsight is a wonderful thing but I wish I had thought about taking transferable skills from my original position and moving to a less stressful part of the business rather than just wanting out.

pinkbackground · 14/09/2025 15:46

I gave up teaching to be a gardener. No regrets.

AmpleLilacQuail · 14/09/2025 15:49

I gave up my career in accountancy for a civil service role, it’s been so good to get some work/life balance back.

Rach247 · 14/09/2025 16:29

Thanks all for your responses - probably the reality check I needed.

I’m 44, so 20 years still to work sounds realistic. About 10-12 years left on the mortgage at the current rate of repayment (obviously longer if my salary takes a hit).

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JustStopItNorasaurus · 14/09/2025 16:40

I was a lawyer but in a high street firm so not working mega bucks by any stretch of the imagination. The stress though was simply unbelievable and I was literally suicidal.

I gave it up and i is the best thing I have ever done. HOWEVER... we did not have a mortgage and I had kept the flat I had when I had met DH and have been renting it out for years. That was my safety net and it meant I could take a massive step back. Without a safety net I couldn't have done it.

The hit to our finances has been severe. It was okay for the first year or so, but now with COL etc it's been pretty bad. I don't miss for a moment dumping the job, but I am worried about what the next couple of years will hold for us. I also did work for 2 years in a role that paid half of what I used to earn, and although it was nothing like being a solicitor thank GOD it still brought a ridiculous amount of stress- for ever crappier pay. That charity then folded so now I am doing ad hoc temp work and have no idea what the future holds.

Wugglesworth · 14/09/2025 17:00

Solidarity OP. I feel like this every Sunday :(

Tumbleweed101 · 14/09/2025 17:01

Think carefully before dropping a well paying job. The hours and stress can be just as high in low paying roles but then you also have money worries too.

But I get it - I'm nearly 50 and could happily retire right now if i had the means to.

Merryoldgoat · 14/09/2025 17:04

Depends on your definition of well paid.

DH and I are well paid [in my opinion - doubtless many on here would disagree] but work 9-5 and don’t have any issues so no real need to jack it in for better balance.

SquadGoals75 · 14/09/2025 17:15

I came on here to write a similar post. I earn approx £67k per year, but absolutely hate my job. It’s so stressful and a toxic environment. Not the type of job you can work from home.l either.

Im looking at lower paid jobs with less stress but am a single parent with a large mortgage so I’m nervous. One idea I’m considering is to get a lower paid job with less stress, then do a few hours in an evening / weekend 2nd job to top up? Is that a ridiculous idea!

Merryoldgoat · 14/09/2025 17:21

SquadGoals75 · 14/09/2025 17:15

I came on here to write a similar post. I earn approx £67k per year, but absolutely hate my job. It’s so stressful and a toxic environment. Not the type of job you can work from home.l either.

Im looking at lower paid jobs with less stress but am a single parent with a large mortgage so I’m nervous. One idea I’m considering is to get a lower paid job with less stress, then do a few hours in an evening / weekend 2nd job to top up? Is that a ridiculous idea!

What do you do? There are definitely jobs paying this sort of level that aren’t ridiculously stressful

Clychaugog · 14/09/2025 17:22

Yes, with zero regrets. Never felt part of the suited and booted corporate world and having more money than I needed wasn't something that floated my boat.

Have had a very comfortable, varied and fulfilling career working for people that want to make the world a better place.

Crushed23 · 14/09/2025 17:23

No, but I really hope to in the next 5-10 years. I’m mid-30s, 13 years into a very stressful career in Finance and I really don’t want this to be my life until retirement. The pressure from my job can be so intense that it makes me burst into tears - most recently in the back of an uber on the way to the airport for a last minute business trip.

My plan is to save hard over the next few years then pivot into something completely different which would entail a 80-90% pay cut but would be more aligned with my passion (working in the fitness industry).

Clychaugog · 14/09/2025 17:27

Crushed23 · 14/09/2025 17:23

No, but I really hope to in the next 5-10 years. I’m mid-30s, 13 years into a very stressful career in Finance and I really don’t want this to be my life until retirement. The pressure from my job can be so intense that it makes me burst into tears - most recently in the back of an uber on the way to the airport for a last minute business trip.

My plan is to save hard over the next few years then pivot into something completely different which would entail a 80-90% pay cut but would be more aligned with my passion (working in the fitness industry).

This was me.

I remember being sat in my fancy car in a mcdonalds car park on the edge of a town where I was during to attend a meeting, just sobbing.

Life's too short.

Bluezoo123 · 14/09/2025 17:28

Rach247 · 14/09/2025 16:29

Thanks all for your responses - probably the reality check I needed.

I’m 44, so 20 years still to work sounds realistic. About 10-12 years left on the mortgage at the current rate of repayment (obviously longer if my salary takes a hit).

I feel your pain, although my job is nhs rather than corporate with a wage of around £45K, working conditions have got so bad I dream of leaving to do something else but am trained for nothing else and financially things are tight with this salary let alone on a lower one. Also like the flexibility of being able to pick up extra 'bank' shifts when have extra things to pay for.

BloomingGardens · 14/09/2025 17:29

I did. Left a big tech company working all hours to speak to the West Coast US in the evening, lots of stress, horrible re-orgs and rounds of redundancies. Just handed in my notice with nothing organised. My saving grace was ten years earlier we'd bought a small house so as not to stretch ourselves, saying that if we ever needed to we could survive on one salary (just survive, not thrive!). I didn't work for a few months and spent that time putting things in place for my nd eldest and also just totally slowed down and let all the stress leave my body. I took a six month contract role with a smaller company covering a leave of absence. It's more junior than what I did so not as well paid, but still a well paid job, I just need to cut my cloth a bit. My manager is delighted with me and seeking to extend. Being a contractor the expectations are lower and I feel no stress. I do not care the way I did before, there's no emotional element to my job. If you are ready to start straight away in a contract role you may be able to name good terms, as a company may be desperate to get cover. Good luck!

BigFatLiar · 14/09/2025 17:30

My parents became ill in my 50s. I gave up a very senior post in order to care for them. Fortunately I had DH's support. Now I do volunteering with charities.

Bananachimp · 14/09/2025 17:31

Yes I've done this. Given up a career to take a downward step into admin work, very basic. I am a year in and utterly bored and demoralised, can't believe what I've done and desperately looking for jobs to apply for to get back to my career.

Focusispower · 14/09/2025 17:32

I haven’t but I haven’t ruled it out. I’m trying to save, max out pension contributions and generally get financially ready for a slower pace of life. I mostly enjoy my job but it has huge ups and downs. If the downs become too prevalent then I will seek to change it. As PP has suggested - becoming a contractor is my likely
plan, or a portfolio career - being a NED etc although I’m probably 10 years off that!