Was the midwife implying I am fat or am I paranoid

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Am I being paranoid or did the midwife imply I am fat? She weighed me and then was basically going on about contraception, and how after a c section it’s best to wait a year to 18months to get pregnant again and said the coil can be inserted during a c section…. And then said “most women want to get their bodies back”

Was she meaning bodies back before another baby? Or body back before having a coil inserted and adding hormones to a body that’s just given birth?

Pregnancy40weeks

Doesn’t matter what she thinks! (Don’t over think comments like that, please - she was insensitive at the least, or rude or worse) Congratulations on your newborn, enjoy every moment

I don't think it was a comment about your weight, She could have meant that some women want to lose weight after being pregnant or that some women are happy not being heavily pregnant. Either way I wouldn't read in to it.

I don't think thats what she meant. Health professionals usually aren't that vague if they think someone is fat.

I read it as meaning that most women cant wait to no longer be pregnant and literally have their body back, i.e. not sharing it with an unborn baby, particularly as you were talking about contraception.

That how I would have understood it

I don't think she was implying you're overweight at all. So I'd go with paranoid.

I’d read that as wanting your body to yourself - after sharing it with an unborn baby for 9 months? And then a baby when you’re BF and touched out.

but I honestly wouldn’t take it under your notice - it’s just a passing remark.

People can take offence at anything they want too, you have decided she had an ulterior motive

I think she meant most women want to have some time with their body back to themsleves and not be sharing it with another person.

I'm a midwife. I'd say almost definitely having your body back as in not sharing it with a baby anymore. Hence the contraception, so you don't get pregnant again. Much better having one inserted during elective CS (which means it's done through the top of your cervix, and not through your vagina BTW) so you don't need an extra appt to have one fitted weeks down the line.

She means after making a human inside of your body then feeding a bay from your own body. Not drinking or having any caffeine.

Unless you are one of the Housewife’s of the OC or whatever it’s called then she probably did not mean you getting beach ready.

I had a midwife who asked started explaining about a study they were doing with overweight patients, taking it for granted I’d want to be involved. She said next time I came for an appointment they’d measure the fat around my upper arms, and at that point I just walked out on her.

I did lose all the weight, so fuck her.

I agree with this.
Most women want to recover physically and mentally from pregnancy.
Please don't fixate on your weight OP.

That's what I would have thought too.

This is how I understood it too.

I think my pregnancy hormones are getting the better of me! Thanks everyone.

@Unlove thank you.

I think she's suggesting that most women are looking forward to not being heavily pregnant anymore and getting back to themselves. I honestly wouldn't read more into it.

I say that as someone who needs to lose a little weight and as an exceptionally touchy person anyway. Even I really wouldn't read anything in to that comment.

Is this your first? I also ready it as owning my own body again, and that takes months. Because it's more than pregnancy, it's the start of motherhood too. I think there's a difference between "pre-pregnancy body" and "your body" in that context. Pre pregnancy is weight and just your body is autonomy. But i didn't miss the autonomy bit until i had the baby because it felt like i came second or third to everyone at that stage.

I'm not really sure what she meant from that if I'm being completely honest but I'm sure it wasn't about your weight.

For me, getting my body back isn't as much about weight but more about allowing my hormones settle and not having to produce milk for the baby!

It's just exhausted your body being there to serve a baby, and after 9months of pregnancy and 6 months or so of feeding I just want my body to be my own again.

As a midwife (long ago) I immediately thought she was advising about not getting pregnant too soon after a section to allow the uterine scar to heal.

Well are you?

I would see it this way too.

Is this your first baby? After having my son it took almost a year for my body to feel like it completely belonged to me again, and no longer a body dedicated to growing a baby. (And that's without breastfeeding at all). I don't know if it makes sense but I remember when he was a few months feeling like my body was never going to feel completely mine again, and it was my new normal. It was nice to feel more "me" again! I don't know if others have had these feelings...