Parents political views

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Anyone else's parents have completely different political views. The country or even the world atm having so much hate and cconflict and I feel are split into 2. These who are going on these "immigrant marches" waving the England flag, those who love MAGA and Donald trump and spew hate towards any human possible.
These are the category my parents fall into.
They are becoming more confident saying their racist thoughts out loud now. Its like the want to fight with people.

Im on the other side in shock that my parents have this much hate in them. Always thought since I was little that I dont agree with them.

Its now come to blows. Ive bit my tongue too long and either answered back and left the conversation or ignored them. I cant do it anymore ive had enough of what they stand for.

Apparently im far left and "woke". Not the case I just don't hate people for their race, religion or gender.

Aibu to be at the end of my tether?

Are you living in their house? If not keep the conversation off politics when you see them, nice neutral topics only!

No im not and I have my own children.

Ive tried trust me.

Well I would be advising them not to attend this protest on Saturday, whatever their political views. I saw people are planning on taking their children, Christ alive, it's going to be horrific.

Do they air their right-wing views in front of your children? If you are no longer getting any pleasure from their company, and they insist on articulating their racist opinions when you visit them or they visit you, I'd pull right back and stop seeing them.

Do they truly say that non-white people are of lesser value than white people (presuming that you are white of course), or do they say that immigration should be controlled and that illegal immigrants should be deported?

My point is saying someone is Racist covers a broad field and what one person considers Racist another would not. Labels are thrown around willy-nilly these days and there are too many on the Far Left and Far Right who consider anyone not entirely agreeing with them to be Racist, Facist etc etc etc.

My elderly parents are lovely but absolutely bleeding heart lefties. They live a life that is totally unaffected by rampant immigration and have never had insecure housing, jobs or had to live in a crime ridden neighbourhood. They reside in a virtually 99% white area yet they seem to thing others should suck up boatloads of fighting age young men arriving on our shores. I'm as fed up with their views as the OP is with her parents.

Well she text me and said she's embarrassed of my views my ancestors fought in the world war to live the life we lead now. She starts going on about something called shariah law and I live in a bubble full of rainbows and unicorns. She said she wont change her views because I don't like them and that apparently she doesnt walk around with her eyes closed.
So she's doubling down.
I am so angry!!!! You cant argue with stupid tbh

Im not a die hard lefty but I believe in choice of a womans body (abortion), not killing each other with guns, have legal and fair immigration which we do have a process and even so these people are fleeing war striken countries. Id do the same if I was in their position with my child. I believe in not screaming and intimidating someone because of their race or religion.
Just generally being nice to other humans tbh! Don't think that constitutes being an extreme lefty!

I can't believe that your family has let it get to this. For crying out loud. Who thinks that they can fix the world by being obnoxious and disparaging about the people you travel through life with?

The small but vital wisdom in agreeing to disagree will have to make a comeback if the domestic sphere isn't going to be pummelled by an increasingly deranged political sphere.

Most people's parents are right-wing...

You know what - at some point the statistical likelyhood is that you will find yourself as the old right wing person, compared to your progressive kids or grandkids. How will you feel then?

I'm not saying you need to agree with them, but blowing up a family over politics is rarely productive or useful.

You could stay quiet, but the best thing is just to debate them and discuss it in a nice way. Not insulting, not label calling or patronizing etc. you might even change their mind on a few things.

From my own experience, most older people are ok with you coming with a different perspective, as long as you are doing it from a position of respect. Not a position of "you old stupid racist who knows nothing" (even if that is sometimes true).

Within my own family there are people who can have and enjoy disagreeing, and there are those who just can't stand each other when it comes to politics, and it is almost always down to respect.

Unfortunately the burden of that respect tends to fall to the more reasonable.

You’re doing the right thing by disagreeing and trying to say why. It’s disturbing that they are labelling you instead of engaging but what else can you do?

You are not being nice to your parents are you, you are saying they hate other people. Are they beating up their neighbours and going on the march today or are they, most likely, sitting at home and just fed up of being told by you what they must think? Talking about the war = talking about fighting for democracy and freedom. "Shariah" law - they dont want someone else's religion thrust on them. Woke and rainbows - they dont want misogynists and homophobes eroding womens' rights.

Are you, perhaps, telling them what they must think and not having a respectful discussion about why they dislike how you behave?