Feel so ugly in my 40s

[LouisaJG]

Just that, really. I’m a stone and a half overweight and can’t bear to look at my fat pie face. Dry eyes as I’m getting older so I can’t really wear contact lenses any more, and glasses have never suited me. I had braces as a teen and nice straight teeth for a while but they’ve moved, so I feel a bit self conscious about my smile in photos. But I also feel like my face has fundamentally changed in some way I can’t put my finger on, it’s not particularly about wrinkles, but like my facial features have literally changed and got uglier, my face just used to be softer and prettier and more feminine. I grind my teeth and I feel like it’s given me this really square harsh wide man jaw that I hate, I sort of don’t recognise myself in the mirror. I hate feeling like this.

AIBU to feel like I’ve not just gotten older, my looks have changed in some fundamental way? Does anyone else feel like this?

I think it has to do a lot with the change of lifestyle. At 40 some people stop going out as much as they did when they were younger, and they look dreadful and hideous!

I still go out a lot for cocktails, and those bottomless Prosecco lunches, wine tastings and private views, etc, and apart from first thing in the morning, I look absolutely fabulous for my age (I'm 58). By lunchtime my skin looks great and in the evenings I sometimes wonder why I didn't become a Supermodel. Simply gorgeous!

According to Kathy Hilton. Our noses and ears grow every year so why not get them made smaller. Can’t say I disagree and if I were brave enough. I would

Lol I could have been a supermodel. But by the time I realised, I was aready too old 😢

I’m sitting here chuckling at your supermodel comment 😂. But I agree with the going out. Helps you feel younger.

I'm sure half of you who are saying you're 'ugly' are almost certainly not , it such a shame what the media has done. You are all beautiful in your own unique ways.

Why don't you post some face photos and we can give a truthful verdict? I'm sure no one would then be disappointed

I’m not 40 yet but feeling unattractive. I see it as the perfect push to take as good of care as myself to boost how I feel.

I've developed a jawline like Johnny Bravo and chin hair. 44 looks ace on me.