Is it normal to spend every evening in the pub?

[HappyDreamer]

Is it normal to spend every evening in the pub? My MIL spends every night in the pub and drinks everyday. Personally I think she has a problem if she’s drinking in the pub every day. Obviously it’s up to her what she wants to do but I feel she prioritises this over seeing her granddaughter which she’s visited at my home once and we are expected to take her to the pub to visit. Our relationship has definitely changed since having my 18 month old. If my partner drinks etc she thinks it’s absolutely fine and he then thinks his behaviour is ok. I’m not denying people having fun when they are kid free and on the weekends but drinking every day I think is too much especially with a child.

Yes I don’t mind him wanting to do it a couple times a week but annoying when I’m left to do nursery pick ups everyday and try and cook etc. his argument is that I will see my friends once a month and evening and get my nails done once a week compared to his one hour at the pub every day

You seem to have a problem with your partner drinking, which is reasonable. You also seem to project it onto his mother, which is not reasonable.

People with young children should prioritise the children. They should also acknowledge that their partners need them and might be struggling.

At the same time, women (wives, mothers, roommates) are not responsible for the behaviour of men.

Yes you have a husband problem.

Completely, I appreciate your comment

It seems nobody has picked up on the fact that your MIL expects you to bring her GD to the pub to see her. I find that quite shocking and rather sad. There’s no way I’d have been taking my DC to a pub to see their grandparent.
I don’t really like pubs or drink alcohol so can’t relate to people who go every day. Totally agree with you OP. It’s not normal and I’d be pushing your DH to drop his daily pub habit.

I think your OP is badly-worded.

The issue isn't really your MIL and her drinking.

It's your partner and his drinking which is the actual problem. And I agree with you that he shouldn't be going to the pub every day, especially if you're expected to do all the childcare. It's very selfish of him, not to mention a waste of money.

Yes, I just read that. No way would I do that and normalise alcoholism for the next generation too.

Going to the pub every day is fine, drinking alcohol every day is not.

Obviously it is not normal otherwise pubs wouldn't be closing a rate of one a day or whatever it is.