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AIBU to be a bit taken aback by some of these ‘House Rules’?

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Speckly · 11/09/2025 17:16

So I’ve booked an Air bnb for a long weekend. Going on this break will be myself (F54) DH (58) and our two DS (29 and 27). Neither of them live with us any longer but will each be meeting us there. In case it’s relevant the price for 3 nights was £346, which I think is a good price. There was no mention of particular rules in their listing (the first image is the list of rules on the actual Air bnb listing) but today (the day before we leave), we were emailed another list of very specific house rules (the second image is the list received from the owner today).
Now obviously we’re going to respect their property and be careful (we always do when we go away), but I do feel like some of these rules are a little bit over the top: Rules 5 and 6 particularly. Out of interest, do you think it’s ok to tell people what they can and can’t cook in the property when they’ve paid to stay there? To not let people cook fish seems unacceptable to me. Personally, I also don’t think it’s acceptable to tell me where in the property I can and can’t eat. Surely as long as I look after the property and it’s left in a good clean condition, I’ve fulfilled my part of the hire contract? I understand the owners want to keep their property in the best condition possible and I will respect their space, but I just feel like I’m not going to relax now and will be overthinking everything we do while we’re there. So AIBU or are these very specific rules a step too far, especially as they weren’t stated upfront?

AIBU to be a bit taken aback by some of these ‘House Rules’?
AIBU to be a bit taken aback by some of these ‘House Rules’?
OP posts:
CarpetKnees · 11/09/2025 19:01

Candleabra · 11/09/2025 17:27

Tbh most of them are very reasonable but I felt (probably unreasonably) annoyed reading them.

It might have been the tone “we are pest free snd intend to keep it that way” or whatever. Anyway, it just sounds like they’d be difficult to deal with and you’d be on edge all weekend (whilst eating and drinking over the sink - and washing up immediately afterwards!)
I enjoy going away for a break from domestic drudgery and this just seems like hard work.

This.

I wouldn't have been doing any of the things listed, BUT, I don't need it written out in a list like that, particularly not once I am already there. If they want to write a list like that, it should be upfront before you book, so you can avoid booking.

As @Livelaughlurgy said on P1
Those rules are a pain in the ass. Because the people that follow them don't need to be told. The people that won't follow them won't be moved to by a list.

So sending the list does nothing, other than making the decent guests feel uncomfortable.

usedtobeaylis · 11/09/2025 19:08

I think the rules are fine but they could possibly make people aware of them before they book in case someone has a heavy fish weekend planned

DiscoBeat · 11/09/2025 19:12

I would feel very unwelcome presented with a list like that. 'damages will be charged for' and 'please ventilate the house after cooking strong smelling foods' covers most of it all really. Most of it is common sense.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 11/09/2025 19:14

IGaveSoManySigns · 11/09/2025 17:19

These are all perfectly reasonable requests

< says the owner >

BettysRoasties · 11/09/2025 19:15

Our rules when we had a rental.

Please leave in the same condition as found.

Report any issues as soon as possible.

Yes we have a few take the piss. But I’m sure writing don’t steal wouldn’t have stopped them. Nor would don’t leave it in a shit tip with food in bowls in the cupboards. Oh and don’t jump on toilet or whatever one did to break the seat every time they stayed.

OhNoNotSusan · 11/09/2025 19:15

i thought they were ok

OhNoNotSusan · 11/09/2025 19:16

although of course who doesnt love a curry, so that is a nuisance.

FreebieWallopFridge · 11/09/2025 19:16

Livelaughlurgy · 11/09/2025 17:20

Those rules are a pain in the ass. Because the people that follow them don't need to be told. The people that won't follow them won't be moved to by a list.

💯

OhNoNotSusan · 11/09/2025 19:17

i imagine would go out for a curry rather than eat in?

Cosyblankets · 11/09/2025 19:17

We are going away for the weekend this weekend. I will treat it as my home for the weekend and leave it as we find it.
I won't be hoovering or mopping unless i spill something. We leave everywhere clean and tidy
I don't want fish but if I did I would have it.
I don't generally eat a meal on the sofa but I'm an adult. I'm not five and i will if i want to.

smallpinecone · 11/09/2025 19:17

All sound perfectly reasonable to me. I can’t abide cooking smells.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 11/09/2025 19:17

backandforthup · 11/09/2025 17:26

Did you read the Op?

Quite clearly she didn't !! At least read the OP if you're not going to RTF 🤭

Flakey99 · 11/09/2025 19:22

Ignore them.
They should have brought them to your attention before you booked it. They can’t suddenly add extra terms after the contract has been agreed.

I’d probably eat sat on the sofa and I always order a takeaway curry when away from home. (We live rurally so no decent Indian restaurants within about 30 miles, so it’s something I look forward to as part of the break.)

tsmainsqueeze · 11/09/2025 19:22

I really don't like the 'tone ' of those rules.
It goes without saying to the majority of people that you would leave somewhere as you find it but i absolutely would not be able to relax in that environment for worrying about the consequences should a disaster occur.
Reading that after booking would spoil the break for me , i would be looking elsewhere.

BunnyLake · 11/09/2025 19:22

Bumbers · 11/09/2025 17:27

5 and 6 are not reasonable

And seems quite racist. Supposing the families booking are Asian/Indian/Caribbean, are they not allowed to cook curries?

They sound far too uptight to be renting out a holiday let.

CalzoneOnLegs · 11/09/2025 19:25

I think it’s the entitlement of some people that’s the problem. When asked not to cook malodorous food stuffs, results in a little tantrum and a plan to cook the most anti social smelling foods available, rather than being the adult and agreeing, I just don’t get that and IF your diet consists of fish exclusively then there are plenty of ready prepared options that don’t require cooking, the same with those curries you can heat in a microwave I just don’t see the problem here.
I expect that future feedback would say something like ‘nice place but smelled of cooking’ so it’s a perfectly reasonable and understandable request.

PendantScorner · 11/09/2025 19:26

@BunnyLake , you are looking for something that is not there.

ohyesido · 11/09/2025 19:26

They are somewhat condescending

Fibrous · 11/09/2025 19:27

So I'm not allowed a cup of tea in bed in the morning? No chance I'm staying there then. When there are more rules than in my own home and in a hotel, then jog on.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 11/09/2025 19:29

ComfortFoodCafe · 11/09/2025 17:42

No cooking curry or strong smelling fish? Go on op be a rebel - cook a korma! Grin

Or even a fish korma that you then eat on the sofa!

BunnyLake · 11/09/2025 19:29

PendantScorner · 11/09/2025 19:26

@BunnyLake , you are looking for something that is not there.

It wouldn’t have been their intention but to ban an entire cultural food stuff is, at the least, narrow minded and thoughtless.

Squishydishy · 11/09/2025 19:30

No I wouldn’t want to stay here.

id like to have a glass of red wine and crisps on the sofa.
id like to wash up when I fancy and that might be the next morning. I’d like to cook a curry. I’d like to have tea and toast in bed.

CountryMouse22 · 11/09/2025 19:30

Just to be ornery, stitch some herrings in the hems of curtains!

(Nasty, I know!)

BunnyLake · 11/09/2025 19:31

Fibrous · 11/09/2025 19:27

So I'm not allowed a cup of tea in bed in the morning? No chance I'm staying there then. When there are more rules than in my own home and in a hotel, then jog on.

Totally agree. Sounds more like a punishment than a treat staying there.

CalzoneOnLegs · 11/09/2025 19:33

A delivery or ready made version of the foods would be fine, they are just asking they are not cooked from scratch is my interpretation anyway, and purely because they do smell and it permeates everything, multiply that by several times a week and the premises would not be at all inviting

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