DH eager to be proven right

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I have health anxiety and so obviously I can be a little paranoid about my health. DH gets furious at me saying I’m wasting GPs time etc and everytime I’m waiting for results (for genuine diagnosed health issues) he sits there waiting to be proven right that it’s all in my head.

I had some bloods taken yesterday, partly to check on my anaemia but also to check for coeliac disease. DH is eagerly awaiting the results so he can throw it in my face that I’m wasting Dr time. I have actually been diagnosed with chronic anaemia with no indication of why. DH says when thundercracker 6 comes back he wants me to admit that it’s all in my head.

I admit I have health anxiety but telling me not to be anxious is like telling an arachnophobiac to not be scared of spiders. AIBU to simply stop talking to him about any health issues I may or may not have as he clearly can’t bring himself to be supportive or understanding

And the only cure is amputation.

This. usual from me, what does he bring to the party?

I had an iron infusion a couple of years ago and the specialist said he will infuse patients with a ferritin level of 50 or less if they have symptoms. Ferritin of 15 isn't even NHS normal!

This. Although my SIL also has extreme health anxiety and my brother has supported her and enabled her anxiety to the point that she cannot easily leave the house for fear of germs and being too close to other people. She wears headphones and a mask at work to keep everyone at arms length. He sorted food deliveries so she never has to visit a supermarket. If work has to be done on anything in the house she hides upstairs until they've gone so he has to deal with them. He spends every family event by her side and constantly says " Are you okay? ". They only eat out once in a blue moon and only of a specific outdoor table can be booked. You may not like how your husband behaves but being soft with you would have done you no favours either. Counselling is your best bet Op.

I wondered if it was another username OP goes by on here

Honestly my sister has health anxiety and it's very hard on the whole family. Every time we meet up she tells me she thinks she has cancer/heart issues/ibs/lymphoma etc. I spend most of the conversation reassuring her that she doesn't but then I'm driving home worrying about maybe she does have something terrible and I'm worried too until the gp tests scans etc tell her she doesn't and then the cycle starts all over again.
i know it's worse for her but it does impact the family as well .