To not have DH’s dinner waiting on the table

[SoftPillow]

My DH works a commute away and always comes home at 7.30pm earliest. I get home at 6.30pm if I’m at the office, as I did today.

His train was delayed, he told me to eat earlier. I ate with the kids, tidied up, prepped his dinner so the main part was cooked and waiting for him in the oven, then did bedtime, uniforms, school bags. All the usual shit I do every day.

I get downstairs about 30 secs before he gets home. I say your dinner is ready and in the oven, and he gets huffy that I haven’t prepped his salad.

‘I’d have done it for you’ he said. Well no, because you are never home before me, but if you were you’d be doing all the shit stuff I’d mentioned above.

I explained I’d been doing bedtime and that the entire household routine didn’t revolve around his arrival and needs for lettuce. He said that he was ‘disappointed’ that it wasn’t ready for him.

So I’ve come to Mumsnet as the sight of him mournfully making his salad makes me want to find a spade and a patio (perhaps exaggerating) AIBU not to have his salad prepared?

I don’t even work and I don’t always have dinner on the table when DH comes home from work. Often I do but sometimes it’s still cooking, sometimes his is on the side because we already ate and sometimes I’ve fed the kids freezer food and send him back out to collect a takeaway cos dinner just didn’t happen that day. Sometimes he comes home, sees I’m busy with a child or I’m running to a swimming lesson or picking up from scouts and <gasp> gets on with cooking dinner himself.

Your DH is being ridiculous.

Oh FFS you're not being unreasonable, we have similar issues going on here and it's winding me up. Bloody ungrateful sometimes! Xx

Ooooooooooooooo now I'm invested over whether or not he's got your tea ready tomorrow, OP 😂

" I shall expect dinner plated at 6.30 and I’ve planned a complicated meal 😁"

You mean it doesn't include salad?