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AIBU?

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AIBU to think this could be me?

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TipsyPlumUser · 09/09/2025 16:36

Long story short, my mum had some bad MH issues when we were younger- older two half siblings spent some weeks in foster care besides a few other things. I had one of those childhoods they make tv about.

Anyway, I know something went off around when I was born but never knew what. A local nostalgia page posted a photo of a baby abandoned in the weeks after I was born, later reunited with its family.

I can’t get it out of my head it might be me and now keep looking at the photos so much I can’t see.

For obvious reasons I can’t go to my family and friends to ask. What do you think?

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Owly11 · 09/09/2025 17:29

They have different noses and possibly chins and mouths although that’s harder to tell. I would say probably not but not impossible as the shots are so different.

CaroleLandis · 09/09/2025 17:52

Impossible to say based on just two photos. If they were both head on, an expert in facial analysis might be able to tell.

If it is you then you are aware that your mother had mental health problems and therefore abandoning a baby isn’t about the baby but due to her not being able to think clearly.

The mother of the baby didn’t hurt or kill the infant, so it speaks more of a desire in her mind to get away and let someone else help the baby.

Cinaferna · 09/09/2025 17:56

Honestly, no, those don't look like the same baby. Look at the eyebrows. The one on the left has straighter brows. The one on the right has more arched brows. The one on the left has more of a pixie chin. The one on the right has a broader jawline and fuller cheeks. The eyes are different shapes too. The one on the right has fairly horizontal eyelid lines when closed. the one on the right has lids that slant slightly upwards.

MooseLooseAboutTheHoose · 09/09/2025 18:13

YesThatsATurdOnTheRug · 09/09/2025 16:45

I think the nose looks identical.

Same, the nose is completely identical

CeciliaDuckiePond · 09/09/2025 18:18

I think you will drive yourself mad trying to work it out from these pictures.

If you can't ask another family member, I think you should try to accept that it's a possibility but you will never know for sure.

Iamthemoom · 09/09/2025 18:22

YesThatsATurdOnTheRug · 09/09/2025 16:45

I think the nose looks identical.

Me too and it’s quite distinctive. I think it’s a strong possibility this is the same baby. But fascinated to see how many people are equally convinced it’s not!

PennySweeet · 09/09/2025 18:25

Kindnesscostsnothingtryit · 09/09/2025 17:23

Similarities:
Both babies appear to be newborns or only a few weeks old.
The face shape in both photos looks fairly rounded, which is common at that age.
The nose shape looks quite similar — small and gently rounded.
Both have similar hairlines (fine, short newborn hair).
Differences:
The first baby’s photo shows more distinct facial expression (mouth open, eyes partly closed), while the second baby’s face looks more relaxed in sleep.
Lighting and photo quality are quite different (first is darker/grainier, second is sepia-toned and clearer), which makes detailed comparison harder.
The angle of the face is slightly different in each image, which can change how features appear.
Because newborns can change very quickly in appearance (sometimes even week to week), and photo quality/lighting can alter how features look, it’s difficult to be certain just from these two photos.
Would you like me to highlight specific facial features (eyes, nose, lips, ears, etc.) side by side so you can see how closely they line up?
You said:
Yes
ChatGPT said:
Great — let’s go feature by feature between the two baby photos. Keep in mind that small differences can be due to facial expression, angle, or lighting rather than the babies being different.
👀 Eyes
Baby 1 (top photo): Eyes are almost shut but you can see the fold of the eyelids; appear slightly almond-shaped.
Baby 2 (bottom photo): Eyes are completely closed in sleep; shape looks similar, but harder to tell due to angle.
👃 Nose
Both babies have a small, button-like nose with a rounded tip. The nostrils appear similar in width and shape.
👄 Mouth & Lips
Baby 1: Mouth is open in a mid-expression (as if yawning or making a sound). Upper lip has a gentle curve, lower lip is full.
Baby 2: Mouth is closed, lips relaxed. Shape looks consistent with Baby 1 — upper lip with a soft arch and a fuller lower lip.
👂 Ears
Baby 1: Ear partially visible, small and close to the head.
Baby 2: Ears less visible, but general placement and size seem consistent.
🧑‍🍼 Face Shape
Both babies have rounded cheeks and a short chin, very typical of newborns.
Baby 1’s cheeks look slightly fuller, but that could be due to the expression.
👶 Forehead & Hairline
Both have a high forehead with fine newborn hair.
The hairline looks similar, though Baby 2 has the hair lying flatter due to the angle.
✨ Overall:
The two babies share a lot of consistent features (nose, lips, general face shape). The differences you see are mostly due to expression, camera angle, and lighting. It’s very possible they could be the same baby, though without more photos at different stages, it’s not something that can be confirmed with certainty.

Davina is that you?

ForGladGreen · 09/09/2025 18:43

Contrary to others I think the nose looks identical! And the little line under the chin. Without seeing more and going on this photo alone I would say it definitely could be the same baby

Kindnesscostsnothingtryit · 09/09/2025 22:13

PennySweeet · 09/09/2025 18:25

Davina is that you?

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No clue what that means 😂

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