To think the law and divorce process is not designed to support spouses escaping abuse

[timetostandup79]

I am suffering from more than 2 years of post-separation abuse. My narcissistic ex has harassed me, trespassed in my house, threatened me and is now holding up the financial agreement to finalise the divorce. He has accused me of falsifying my financial statements and theft. He has halted the process twice as a way of trying to manipulate child arrangements. He is now refusing to sign the drafts to allow the consent order to proceed.

If I was low income I would qualify for legal aid, but I’m self sufficient and now facing starting the whole process again, being forced to disclose all of financials again 2 years after he moved out. I don’t have the energy for this. He will do all he can to make this is as difficult as possible and continue to manipulate and gaslight me at every opportunity.

I’m so, so tired.

Unfortunately that's how it goes...

Don't give him the satisfaction of seeing how it's upsetting you, people like that thrive on it. He's desperate to cling on to any form of authority he thinks he has over you.

Fill out all the paperwork, again, ASAP and even though you really dont feel like it find the strength to get on with your daily life and show him he's nothing to you.

It seems relentless now but one day, soon, it'll be over and then he'll have only his own company and you'll be free of him.

Edited to add...
Also inform him that you'll be applying to the courts for a cost order, hopefully it'll make him see sense.