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To say no to my house buyers wanting to redecorate before completion?

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Tarantella43 · 09/09/2025 00:09

I know my house buyers slightly as they were parents at the school my kids attended until recently. They found my phone number from a former school year group parents WhatsApp group and set up a group chat with me once they made their offer (though estate agent — it’s not a private sale). Anyway, my house is now empty and it turns out they somehow presumed they would be able to have early access before completion to have floors sanded and walls painted, My solicitor strongly advised against this as it brings various risks, not least that I’d ultimately be liable for any accidents or damage. I said, on an awkward phone call they asked for with me, sorry, no, I’m not comfortable with this. They said it will be hard for them to do the work with kids and furniture. Seems like they’d assumed my goodwill in this. AIBU?

OP posts:
Blisteringlycold · 10/09/2025 10:46

Nestingbirds · 09/09/2025 22:40

Or you might just come across as a rude, entitled cheapskate/CF and it’s especially distasteful with a probate!

Oh get a grip, the vendor was more than happy.

80smonster · 10/09/2025 10:47

They will need to pay to put their stuff in storage? Then decorate, then call for their stuff.

Blisteringlycold · 10/09/2025 10:47

Rosscameasdoody · 10/09/2025 06:44

You know what they say - just because you can doesn’t mean you should !!

Oh for goodness sake the vendor was more than happy she was a property fund manager in her 'real' life and we are talking a £2m house. She wasn't some exploited old lady.

Needmoresleep · 10/09/2025 11:43

Everything is possible.

A friend was selling a farm and farmhouse as an executor. The sort of unique property where you might take months if not years to find a buyer, where conveyancing (and perhaps probate) can take a while, and where running costs: farm manager, maintenance etc were high. Luckily someone came along who saw it as their perfect property and wanted to move almost immediately for the start of the school year. They ended up with an initial rental contract as well as some sort of exchange/commitment to sell/buy at a set price and within a stated period. (Actually I think the issue was mortgage. Close to exchange the buyer realised there was a different, and much cheaper, mortgage product for farms and so needed time to sort it out.) Lots of additional complexity for my friend but no way did she want to lose a committed and qualified buyer.

However that was a complex transaction. On an ordinary house with no clear contract, you don't let people in till they own it.

Nestingbirds · 10/09/2025 12:55

Blisteringlycold · 10/09/2025 10:47

Oh for goodness sake the vendor was more than happy she was a property fund manager in her 'real' life and we are talking a £2m house. She wasn't some exploited old lady.

A two million pound house is an even bigger liability, in this bracket and indeed significantly upwards of that price it is much harder to find buyers. Especially in the current market.

So if your house is wrecked, you are indeed going to have the expense and lose valuable time and opportunity with a huge repair. The cost of the house is largely irrelevant, it doesn’t give you any kind of free access to move in the builders before you have actually paid for it! 🙄

It is often chi chi buyers that will decide it’s not the house for them after all, maybe there is not enough sunlight in the kitchen or the energy isn’t right etc and forgo the cost of exchange anyway. A big risk to the buyer either way.

AudiobookListener · 10/09/2025 13:03

AngelicKaty · 09/09/2025 01:01

@Tarantella43 I'm genuinely astonished your buyers need to have this explained to them. Until you complete you still own the house and you don't have their money. What if they entered your house to start renovations and accidentally set it on fire, razing it to the ground? You'd have no house, no money and no legal leg to stand on. Are they really this dim?

It used to be common though and there was a particular agreement that solicitors would advise, the name of which escapes me. And I know several people who've done it recently, both as buyer or seller. I think in most cases solicitors do advise against it now. But asking doesn't make someone a CF, and nor does refusing.

Itchyfeetkeepmemoving · 10/09/2025 16:11

Nestingbirds · 10/09/2025 12:55

A two million pound house is an even bigger liability, in this bracket and indeed significantly upwards of that price it is much harder to find buyers. Especially in the current market.

So if your house is wrecked, you are indeed going to have the expense and lose valuable time and opportunity with a huge repair. The cost of the house is largely irrelevant, it doesn’t give you any kind of free access to move in the builders before you have actually paid for it! 🙄

It is often chi chi buyers that will decide it’s not the house for them after all, maybe there is not enough sunlight in the kitchen or the energy isn’t right etc and forgo the cost of exchange anyway. A big risk to the buyer either way.

Clearly you have no idea, but dig in in 😂

Nestingbirds · 10/09/2025 16:45

Itchyfeetkeepmemoving · 10/09/2025 16:11

Clearly you have no idea, but dig in in 😂

I really couldn’t care any less. This is op’s thread not yours.

Nestingbirds · 10/09/2025 16:46

I can’t even understand your posts 🙄 perhaps start with that?!

Itchyfeetkeepmemoving · 10/09/2025 16:50

Nestingbirds · 10/09/2025 16:46

I can’t even understand your posts 🙄 perhaps start with that?!

Well along with your lack of understanding elsewhere, I’m not surprised really. Don’t worry, I doubt it’s a situation that will ever be a concern to you beyond the keyboard.

Rosscameasdoody · 10/09/2025 17:26

Blisteringlycold · 10/09/2025 10:47

Oh for goodness sake the vendor was more than happy she was a property fund manager in her 'real' life and we are talking a £2m house. She wasn't some exploited old lady.

Nice insight to your attitude there.

Blondeshavemorefun · 10/09/2025 17:32

Till it is theirs they can’t do anything legally to the property

Nestingbirds · 10/09/2025 17:36

Itchyfeetkeepmemoving · 10/09/2025 16:50

Well along with your lack of understanding elsewhere, I’m not surprised really. Don’t worry, I doubt it’s a situation that will ever be a concern to you beyond the keyboard.

If only you knew.

Itchyfeetkeepmemoving · 10/09/2025 17:44

Nestingbirds · 10/09/2025 17:36

If only you knew.

Oh what wait, your PhD and multiple law degrees. Yes dear.

Anyway as you too have last worditus, I shall say bye bye

YourAmplePlumPoster · 10/09/2025 18:08

FFS. Trust nobody especially when money is involved. The arrangements in the house are their problem, not yours.

YourAmplePlumPoster · 10/09/2025 18:11

Frankly, I'm surprised a poster brings this to a board after being specifically advised by her solicitor. Does she think posters on a forum are more qualified than her solicitor?

Crazycatladywithnocats · 10/09/2025 18:30

They may have thought it a reasonable request, but if you agree, remember no good deed goes unpunished! It may backfire on you so please say no.

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