To think this woman was rude to call DP a sexist b*stard

[milliec]

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What a horrid response!
If I saw anyone, male or female, struggling, I hope i'd be good enough to offer some help.

She was obviously having a hard day. And yes, she was rude.

If he'd grabbed her stuff or started helping without asking, she might be in a position to complain, but as it was ...

YANBU. She was rude.

She was v rude. It was nice of him to offer to help.

yanbu! how rude of her!

I'm completely shocked that someone would be this rude!!!!

I certainly don't think he was BU and wouldn't have if he had told her to fuck off either!!!

If she didn't want his help that's her right but to respond like this? She needs a good slap talking to

She obviously doesn't understand what sexist actually means.

good manners are so charming shame they were wasted on such a stroppy madam with a huge chip on her shoulder

he sounds smashing

she clearly has issues

If she was carrying a sleeping toddler and 3 bags of heavy shopping I'd guess she probably wasn't having the best day. Sometimes when you're struggling and feeling pissed off you almost want an excuse to snap at someone. Still bloody rude though.

How nice of your DP- hope this doesn't put him off offering again (not to her though!).
She was probably wanting to say it to her own DP/DH but as he was down the pub while she did all the shopping, childcare etc., she took it out on the nearest male.

Carrying a toddler and 3 bags of shopping? I would have broken down and sobbed if someone - male or female - had offered to help me!

All I can hope is that your DP isn't put off being a kind and generous person to strangers again in the future, because of the actions of this nutjob.

but his offer to assist would have alleviated her burden not added to it. No excuse. Just an arsey response

YANBU. Make sure you tell him how great we all think he is

She was rude. He was being very nice.

DH offered his seat to a woman on a bus last year. Just asked her if she'd like to sit down, as she had lots of bags that she was balancing around her feet.

She very loudly commented "I think we've crawled out of the cave now, don't you? I can manage to stand up, thank you very much!"

He just quietly and politely commented that he would have asked anyone who was struggling with lots of bags if they would like to sit down, and that he thought he was being polite, not trying to set the feminist movement back in any way.

So much aggression in some women.
Very .

When I see one of those threads about people helping mums with babies or giving up seats I think of this because I've experienced it too.

I don't hold doors any more either. It's not worth the hassle.

DSs often hold doors open for people - hardly anyone says thank you - young, old, male, female.

Brings out the passive aggression in me in a big way.

I loudly comment "I'm sure they would have said thank you if they had noticed you, darling".

or

"well don't let the fact that people aren't always polite put you off from being so".

One day I will get a shopping trolley rammed down my throat.

what an awful reply - how nice of your dp to offer to help

YANBU, what a horrid and rude thing to say.

I over-do the door thank yous (male or female) in that if I find myself following someone out of my floor, I have to say "thank you" when they open the door the landing, "thank you" when they open the door to the stairwell, "thank you" when they open the door out of the stair well two floors down and "thank you" when they open the main door of the office in the lobby

What I really wish is that we'd gone too far the other way with people with disabilities. Among many other nuggets, I recall the time we were boarding a ferry and the land bridge couldn't go to the normal deck so we had to board via the car deck (one deck down). Virtually everyone insisted on getting the lift up to the normal deck, even looking at me, ds in a pushchair and dh in a wheelchair. One couple even queue jumped us .

When I have to turn down an offer of help for a guy in a wheelchair, then I know we have gone too far.

she probably had PMT but still very rude.

yanbu
your dp sound like a lovely person

YANBU, your DP sounds lovely and it is a real shame that some people think to advance feminism they should make obnoxious responses to offers of help and pretend to be able to cope when they probably really can't... So unfair on those of us who love having any offers of help and milk them for all they're worth make the most of them

One of my work collegues who was big on politeness used to get quite bemused about whether to hold the door open for someone, male or female, as then they have to rush bless!