How long did it take for your LO to settle at nursery at the age of 1.5-2 years?

[user2466]

Hi,

My daughter stated nursery at the age of 9 months and had a smooth smart. I decided to change her nursery this September due to not being happy with her previous nursery.

Since starting this nursery she cries every morning (she attends two days a week) and has periods where she’s quite upset throughout the day.

We had three settle-in sessions and she was fine for the first one with us there whilst we did paperwork but when she realised we left on the second session she cried and has cried at drop off ever since.

When will it get better? I feel awful that I changed her nursery but there were a lot of things I didn’t like about the old nursery and I didn’t find a new one that had the days etc that we needed until September.

Any help would be grateful.

Thanks

Forgot to mention she’s started crying at bed time too when we put her down in her room unless she’s held to sleep

She will soon get used to it and settle, as long as she gets mummy love at the end of the day she will thrive! 😍

@MyLimeGuide thank you. I feel so guilty but this is reassuring

Did you say goodbye to her before leaving or creep out?

It’s my partner who drops her now as I work at that time and I think he creeps out @friskery. Is it better to say goodbye?

It is always better to say goodbye.
Her dad has taken her somewhere full of strangers and disappeared without warning. Of course she's terrified. Everything familiar has changed and she doesn't understand.

Definitely. From her perspective she looked round and had suddenly been abandoned, no idea where dad had gone or if he was coming back.
She's probably very anxious about the nursery now.

She needs to be able to trust you again, start making it a positive routine of saying goodbye and coming back.

Thank you. Will ask him to try saying goodbye @friskery and @SpanThatWorld … we were advised to creep out by the nursery but will ask DH to try and do it the other way and say goodbye

Very much agree with PPs. Definitely better to say goodbye.

My 19 month old just started with a childminder last month. We'd taken a very slow and gradual approach to settling because of issues with previous childminders and apart from at most 9 settling sessions / half days, she'd always been with me or her dad. First week with her childminder, she loved it except attempts at naps. Last week, she sobbed and clung to me at every drop off but she was fine after I left. So far this week, she's been a little unsure initially but has ended up walking away from me while I'm saying goodbye! I'm sure there will be more tears but once she daughter felt a bit more in control about her one issue (the naps) she's a lot more settled.

I'm surprised at the nursery suggesting your husband just leaves without saying goodbye. It's not easy at the time but it's so important for helping her understand that he's gone but he's coming back.