To still attend even though we aren't talking

[FlubandSlub]

My friend of 15 years ghosted me after I cancelled two get togethers over the Christmas period. I messaged her several times in January to arrange meeting up but got no response. I asked her if I had done something to upset her but got no reply. I contacted a mutual friend to ensure she wasn't ill and he assured me all was well with her.
Every time we met over the previous year I left feeling very down, after what was more like a therapy session for her. She constantly complained about how friends and family treated her and I was always supportive. However, I had been dealing with some serious health issues and she never once asked how I was or what was going on in my life.
Last year she booked tickets for both of us for a theatre show this October. I paid her the £80 for my ticket plus half of the booking fee. The tickets are e-tickets and we both have them on our phones.
I really want to see this show but don't know if I should:

1. Offer to buy her ticket and take another friend with me?
2. Ask her to refund my money so that I can buy another ticket and be seated elsewhere?

(What if she doesn't reply?)

1. Go anyway and see if we can resolve our differences?
2. Not go and just accept the loss?

Thanks in advance for the Mumsnet advice/guidance.

Well, what would you prefer? Will it spoil the show for you to be seated next to someone you are no longer friends with?

I’d be tempted to turn up and be prepared for her not to be there.
Maybe call the theatre in advance to check the tickets haven’t been cancelled and sold on!

I would go anyway. I’d send a message saying “looking forward to seeing x, do you fancy meeting for lunch/dinner beforehand”? If she doesn’t reply I’d still go as you’ve let her know that’s your intention.

Text her and tell her you plan to still go and see what her response is, she may assume you’re not going and have given the ticket to someone else.

Oh dear! Maybe message saying “what do you want to do about the tickets”? Give her the options?

I would just turn up early on the day and scan my ticket as soon as possible.

It's possible she is planning to take someone else and if she gets there before you, she could use both tickets.

I would either not go at all (sunk cost) or plan to go by myself. Like a pp said get there super early and use your ticket if you decide to go.
I wouldn’t contact her about the tickets if it was me.

I would just go by myself. If she was there I would be civil but distant rather than friendly. I'd be livid and not remotely civil if she brought someone else and intended to use my ticket for them!

And actually, she doesn't sound much of a friend, friendship is a two way thing. If she doesn't care about your problems but wants support for her own, she can get in the sea. You're better off without her.

It never occurred to me that she would do that. It's possible for her to sell them on without the theatre knowing. 😲

Offer to buy her ticket if she has paid for them.

Of course

No! Don’t give her the option. State what you are doing.

I would just go. I would make sure I wasn’t hanging around inside the venue to avoid any awkwardness. Then sit down just before the start. You wouldn’t be chatting during the performance anyway. At the interval I would stay in my seat if she went to the bar or vice versa. Then just say goodbye at the end and make my way home.

If she has cancelled the tickets without reimbursing you or sold them on, that would be theft. Maybe the venue can confirm your e-ticket is still in your name. But I’ve a feeling you won’t know until you get there and see if someone else is trying to use your booking.

Would she really stoop so low as to diddle you out of £80?

I’d message and ask her what she wants to do. Tell her your planning to go.