To consider reporting ex for harassment?

[timetostandup79]

I'll try to summarise briefly. Separated nearly 3 years, not yet divorced (he's dragging that out as long as he can). I ended things due to catching him out doing nasty things online.
However, despite starting out very sorry, remorseful blah blah, as time has passed he has rewritten the narrative. I 'gave up on him' when he was going through a hard time (his father died 4 years ago, he cut his mother out of his life entirely before that). He was being bullied in work. So I should have stayed and gone to counselling to work it out.
I get fairly frequent emails and whatsapps calling me selfish, cowardly, a bad parent, pathetic and so on. We share children so I can't cut him off completely. I have tried so hard to ignore the abuse and focus on the kids. I don't bite when he baits me, but it's really getting me down. I have asked him several times to stop, and he hasn't.
I think this is now harassment, and I'm at the stage of reporting it to the police.

I mean only you know how much of this you can take. I would maybe start off by letting him know if he doesn’t stop all the nasty messages and emails, you’ll report him to the police and see if he stops then?

Do you share physical custody of the kids with him? Does he have visitation rights?

My DP had years of abuse from the ex. He reported her and was told it didn’t ’reach the threshold for prosecution’ ie she never made physical threats. But like you, he was getting an endless stream of abuse on a daily basis.

DP reached the point where he blocked her. Both of us were at breaking point. We waited until we had a court order in place and now we both just have to follow it. Of course she breaks it freely.

We were told that if he blocked her and she found another way of communicating then that would meet the threshold. She’s done that, and still no one cares. She’s been warned by the police but nothing further.

I don’t know how old your kids are OP and if you need to contact him regularly, but perhaps an intermediary might help? There is an app called Wizard used by the courts. You have to pay for it, but comms from it can be used in court so this might be enough to shut him up.

I’m not sure the app would help, frankly my solicitor said WhatsApp and email can be used in court anyway.