Hi, I am considering leaving my husband. We have been together 10 years , married for 2 and have a 4 month old baby.
When I was pregnant , after the second trimester he would not sleep with me. I did not know why and asked several times . I was sick with worry. I gave up on it until I started to feel better after the birth. I asked him again what is it all about. He told me because of the baby and also that he felt differently about me.
I was so upset because for 7 months he's told me there's no problem and he's lied to me about why we haven't slept together. All I wanted was the truth.
He feels differently about me as when we argue , I can be nasty with words and it has got to him. Personally, I don't think he loves me anymore but he denys it.
I feel resentment towards him over the years (paying for OnlyFans images and messaging other women are just two examples of why).
I don't feel a connection with him, it's like we are roommates . He has slept on the sofa for the past month, at least.
He works 9-5 , is at football 3 evenings a week and half days on the weekend. I have suggested spending more time together but it feels impossible. He was off last week and we spent the week together. It was lovely but it feels so distant.
We went for a meal today after he finished work and there was just no conversation. I found it stressful with the baby . I have had the baby on my own all weekend as he's been at football (including yesterday 10am-12am). I'm exhausted and overrun with worry about my marriage.
Any advice?
I feel the easiest thing to do to save my mental health is leave. On the other hand I want it to work for us and the baby, and because of our vows /commitment.
Thanks