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Would this bother you? Sil

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Howstupid · 07/09/2025 20:56

My sil keeps referring to our house as an ex council house. It’s actually not.

Now I grew up in a council house so no snobbery or prejudice from me.
Sil lives in an ex council house (now owned), she doesn’t like the area and is always complaining about the neighbours. I have never passed comment on where she lives and nor would I. I wouldn’t say anything bad about where anyone lived as it’s just rude imo.
But sil keeps making comments about where we live and dragging us into the situation, saying doesn’t like the road, It’s basically a shit area, she can’t for the life of her understand why we chose to live here, how our house is ‘just’ an ex council house like hers.

I have corrected her quite a few times, I’ve told her we’re fine where we live and that it’s not actually ex council, but she still keeps saying it.

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Praying4Peace · 07/09/2025 21:00

But you need to let it go
She seems to have a problem

OneKhakiFish · 07/09/2025 21:06

It's not worth answering her, I'd just ignore,then again I've gone no contact with mine, long story but she can't say nowt now 😊

Givenupshopping · 07/09/2025 21:06

It clearly DOES bother you that she thinks of your home as 'Ex Council', otherwise you wouldn't keep trying to correct her OP. I think if you can't ignore her silly comments, I would sit her down and tell her once and for all 'SIL I don't know why you've got it in your head that our house was previously a Council house, as it NEVER was, but if you don't like coming here because you look down on our property for some reason, then please feel free not to visit in future'. She'll either get the hump, and not visit, or she'll stop with the silly comments.

Rightandwrong · 07/09/2025 21:08

As @Praying4Peace said: she is the one with the problem. She obviously has a chip on her shoulder about living in an ex council house.
Just try and ignore it when she talks about your home in this way. I know it's difficult but engaging in a conversation with her about it isn't going to do anything other than frustrate you further.

Howstupid · 07/09/2025 21:10

Givenupshopping · 07/09/2025 21:06

It clearly DOES bother you that she thinks of your home as 'Ex Council', otherwise you wouldn't keep trying to correct her OP. I think if you can't ignore her silly comments, I would sit her down and tell her once and for all 'SIL I don't know why you've got it in your head that our house was previously a Council house, as it NEVER was, but if you don't like coming here because you look down on our property for some reason, then please feel free not to visit in future'. She'll either get the hump, and not visit, or she'll stop with the silly comments.

I think it’s more the fact that she keeps trying to drag us into her problems with her own home.

She’s saying ex council as though it’s a bad/negative thing. We’ve never complained to her about where we live so I’m not sure why she keeps trying to drag us down.

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Needmorelego · 07/09/2025 21:13

Does she actually think it was a council house?
I find the architecture of housing interesting so I generally know the different styles of housing/housing estates so can figure out if an area was originally built as council housing.
A lot of 90s houses though I can't necessarily tell just from looking.
How often does it come up in conversation?

Howstupid · 07/09/2025 21:18

Needmorelego · 07/09/2025 21:13

Does she actually think it was a council house?
I find the architecture of housing interesting so I generally know the different styles of housing/housing estates so can figure out if an area was originally built as council housing.
A lot of 90s houses though I can't necessarily tell just from looking.
How often does it come up in conversation?

She does seem to think that, but I have told her it’s not ex council.

She says it fairly regularly. She co sternly complains about her neighbours then she will sort of look around and say “well it’s like this because this is just ex council”. She also says things like “I couldn’t live round here”.

I haven’t invited any of these comments.

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Needmorelego · 07/09/2025 21:37

She sounds a bit odd 😂
Have you asked her why she thinks your house is ex-council?
I'd be curious of her answer.

Evaka · 07/09/2025 21:40

What do you say in response? If someone repeatedly criticised my choices while sitting in my home as an invited guest I'd tell them to get some manners or fuck off.

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