Is the only option to leave

[LeafItMate]

I dont love my husband and he's a misogynist. Every day he makes comments about women. Today he told me all women do at work is talk and if they wired their mouths shut theyd get something done. I do not enjoy his company in any way.

Hes a v good and engaged dad. They've him. Is there any way I can just stick it out for the next 10 years until the kids are grown.

I just can't comprehend how we can split financially and logistically. Am I being ridiculous thinking I can wait it out. I really really dont want to upset my kids and not see them. I think that might be worse than zoning out when he talks and walking to another room.

Am I being unrealistic to just suck it up?

Do your kids hear him talking like that?

How could you let him teach your children with his views, leave now!

A man who talks like this around his children is not a good Dad.

Does he talk like that in front of the kids?

If you can safely go and make sure he doesn't pull the old You aren't taking my kids, go.

Kids are young but yes he does. He says in jokey tone quite a lot but he does think it

That’s not a good dad, kids are absorbing what he says and will understand the toxicity of his words soon, if they don’t already, how can that be the right environment and you’re thinking of putting you and them through another 10 years of this

That's what people do: say unacceptable things and dress them up as a joke to make them acceptable.
If you think he isn't going to affect your children by voicing his misogyny as a " joke" then you are burying your head in the sand.
He is not a good dad.

If you have daughters - he’s letting them think their mouths should be wired shut.

If you have sons - he’s teaching them it’s acceptable to say that women’s mouths should be wired shut.

He is an awful dad.

The kids love him. He knows all about video games and gives them cuddles. Ill be the devil if I break this all up. But my soul, my gut knows hes an absolute arsehole and I have no doubt of that for at least 3 years

Sorry I know im the wrong part of the website. I should be in relationships or something. Im just so tearful amd feel desperate. I dont know what to do for them. I will do whatever the right thinh for them is. I just dont know how we afford it. And he will be so horrible. I camt tell you. Every school event, drop off. He will ne so horrible to me in front of them. How can I roxk the boat even if I know its him thats the problem. But its like prodding the bear or something. I feel like giving up on it all. Its impossible

You cant live like that and your kids will see it all and itl be trauma. Yes he will make things moserable but you can go to a new home and close your doors and block his number. Your kids will be better off not living with all of the negativity. Its just reinforcing in them when they come home his attitude is not right. In my experience though. When they get older, they soon realise. Gl and enjoy your life.

Children still love abusive parents. It doesn’t mean it’s always in their best interests to spend lots of time with them.

No OP, you don’t put up with this. If you do your DC will think this is normal.

Whats your financial situation? Own the house? Work?

It's tough being a single mum. Especially to 2 small kids. Could you sleep in separate rooms to give yourself some space. You could blame wanting to get up earlier or stay up later to get work done if needed. It could give yourself time to think. Of course if you're that unhappy leaving is definitely an option. I am a single mum. It is difficult. There are benefits for sure, you're place is your own, but it is quite intense workload wise. Have a support plan in place if you do leave

The cheek of him! For whatever reason kids playing up. Been trying to get them to stay in their rooms for last hour! Little one says hes sick. Big one is just so hyper. Been working all day and come downstairs at 9pm amd he's gaming and he goes to me "well its not good enough" about the kids latw bedtime.

He’s not good enough. For you.