Another neighbour one arghhh

[Lucy2586]

I moved into my place in December, it’s a beautiful area half private and some social housing. I privately rented until after splitting with my partner and there were no problems at all.

Since moving in, a mother and 20 uear
old adult child have been terrible. Theu do not seem to leave the home and stay up until 6am with the son gaming really loudly and screaming if they lose, sometimes playing heavy metal ( no lie) I have asked about 8 times for it stop
and the mother acts like it did not happen! Weird.

Beautiful large apartment surrounded by greenery do not want to move so went to council twice. I did not know neighbour under her has been too so we all got letters about reporting any antil social behaviour.

i was coming in yesterday and her other grown son start shouting at me calling me an alcoholic! I have a couple of beers twice as week to unwind. Then threatened to get people to my door making out i am the problem. Then the other neighbour heard and it turned into an almighty row. Police came and the woman told them I am an alcoholic i am fuming. I go
out to work every day. I clean and maintain the building because no one else will.

She said I argue with my child. We have had raised voices 3 times since December and that was due to stressful school refusal so I think they are turning this on me and I am so quiet in bed by 10pm. These people have dysfunctional lives and why should we go to work and school without sleep then be gaslighted and blamed when they are called
out.

Will they believe me due to
other neighbours concerns?

That sounds so stressful. All you can do is keep reporting to the council and also now report to the police for harassment and intimidation, report it every single time they approach and threaten you. Maybe they will send someone round to have a word?
I would make it a habit to have my phone in my hand recording every time I leave /enter the building so it can pick up any altercations so you have proof what you are dealing with. I wouldn’t lift it to film them in case it inflames the situation, just have it casually in your hand or top pocket or something so it can pick up audio.
So sorry you are having to put up with this, some people are just awful neighbours who have little consideration for people around them. I hope things quieten down for you soon

Thanks, theu are terribly dysfunctional people. Theu invite family round but it’s at 1am. Do any of these
people work. It’s really abnormal and bevause I have dared to complain after months of trying to be reasonable theu are making out that I am a problem. We are so quiet I have a
couple of beers sometimes with a friend when my daughter is with her dad but they go by 9. Im 48 hardly a party animal. I can be at the door asking to
keep
the noise down at 6am and the mother will say I can’t hear it and you can hear it standing there!

My daughter doesn’t game with people we are out a lot we are honestly decent neighbours.

The other neighbours said she has had 2 years of it and is just not dealing with it again. They came to me bevause I live alone i didnt see them going to the home where a man is in the house.

Have a look at what you council or housing association classes as anti social behaviour. This can include inconsiderate parking, littering, noise, loitering, vandalism, hate crimes like racist comments. Keep a log of every single thing. The more issues you can log, the better. They will have to addressed each one. I would avoid any contact with them as it seems to make them react. You could collect evidence from a video doorbell. See if you can suss out other neighbours. Find an approachable one you can team up with.

As the police were called to the disturbance and they told them about the loud rows with your child, they will be obliged to report to social services.

You'll then get the chance to put your side of it to them and they'll either be satisfied or they won't and they'll take it from there. So I wouldn't worry too much about that.

If they're threatening you on your own doorstep, please protect yourself by getting a doorbell cam if you don't already have one.

Theu can contact social services i have no problem. My daughter has never seen me drunk and she is 12. She knows we do not argue loudly at all we have a peaceful home. Apart from
having some school anxiety my daughter isnt a noisy child. Anyone can make up lies, I have evidence. I have noise recordings at 4am, 3am etc and I have a recording of her son threatening me so her lies will backfire.

Also I have been communicating with her school to discuss her anxiety so they can easily back that up. The truth always comes to light when you have that on your side there’s no need to worry.

Maybe get a ring doorbell etc, report to yiur landlord you are being harassed, call the police every time.
Report to your local MP if the council are taking too long

Make sure you record any noise,a time sheet,photos. Anything that will help you. Make sure all the other neighbours report too. If they do this,it'll be obvious to the council who the trouble makers are.

The council know who it’s the whole building has had enough. All doors are firedoors that slam so on top of everything else there’s fire doors slamming all night long with her nocturnal family members coming in and out. I do not know how anyone could live like that it’s a very depressing life from where I am standing.