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Can you tell your left from your right?

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TeaAndCakeMakeThingsBetter · 07/09/2025 10:11

Had a random conversation yesterday where a friend and I discovered that neither of us instinctively knew our left from our right. It was part of a conversation around neurodiversity and it got me wondering whether it’s just a random blip in our brains or part of something wider. So - do you just KNOW left from right or does it not come automatically? I also struggled at school with random bits of timetables (6/7/8s - could never remember the ones where the answers were somewhere between 40 and 50, but had absolutely no problem with maths overall and got straight As st GCSE. That’s not a boast, more just that it wasn’t linked to academic intelligence!). Am also left handed if that’s relevant (but still have to consciously think about which hand I write with if asked 🙈).

YABU- duh, obviously I can tell left from right 🙄
YANBU - No! I have to really think about which is which 🙈

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YanTanTetheraPetheraBumfitt · 07/09/2025 11:27

Years ago in an operating theatre the surgeon started prepping the wrong ankle for surgery ( I was awake). The other doctor had to stop him. I thought maybe they just sloshed antiseptic stuff over both ankles 😁. I wonder if he struggled with left and right 🙈. Most bizarre thing was he’d earlier felt tipped the correct ankle!

IzzyHandsIsMySpiritAnimal · 07/09/2025 11:29

Sometimes!
Im okay if I'm just puttering around doing stuff for myself and need to figure out what's left and what's right (and I know my left hand makes an L if I stick my thumb out), but when it comes to giving directions then my brain goes into stupid mode; I'll be saying "go left" but pointing to the right.

Booksaresick · 07/09/2025 11:31

No i can’t , I need about 5-10 seconds to process where’s left and right. Luckily for me my driving instructor found it funny and told me to just drive wherever I wanted as I kept „ignoring” his directions.
My family and friends learned to use „that way” and use their hands to direct me.

Sunnyscribe · 07/09/2025 11:33

Yes but it takes some brain energy, have to stop and think

Watchingthechaseagain · 07/09/2025 11:33

@Ineedanewsofa
Never
Eat
Cake
Eat
Salad
Sandwiches

I say it in my head every time I write/type necessary.

HRTQueen · 07/09/2025 11:34

YanTanTetheraPetheraBumfitt · 07/09/2025 11:27

Years ago in an operating theatre the surgeon started prepping the wrong ankle for surgery ( I was awake). The other doctor had to stop him. I thought maybe they just sloshed antiseptic stuff over both ankles 😁. I wonder if he struggled with left and right 🙈. Most bizarre thing was he’d earlier felt tipped the correct ankle!

That’s a little concerning 😬

I can’t tell left from right looking at someone only my left or right but rarely have to

HelpMeGetThrough · 07/09/2025 11:35

Left and right, I always knew.

When I was a kid, port and starboard I had to think about (I learnt to sail and as the years went on, sailed and raced a lot), until I was told a way to remember it. I’ve not had problems for years now and it’s instinctive.

CurlewKate · 07/09/2025 11:38

Politically- yes. Physically-no. And I have absolutely no sense of direction either. I can get lost in my own home town. Years ago I was told it was something to do with brain polarity, but I think that theory’s been disproved now.

Trovindia · 07/09/2025 11:39

Sahara123 · 07/09/2025 10:52

Try “ spring forward, fall back “ , this is the only way I can understand it !

Same! I always have to say that to myself to work it out

Trovindia · 07/09/2025 11:39

Watchingthechaseagain · 07/09/2025 11:33

@Ineedanewsofa
Never
Eat
Cake
Eat
Salad
Sandwiches

I say it in my head every time I write/type necessary.

What's that to help with?

TheOnlyThing · 07/09/2025 11:39

No, not now. I did when younger though and was diagnosed ND in the 90s.

VimesandhisCardboardBoots · 07/09/2025 11:40

No, never struggled with left and right. I am however admittedly a freak of nature who always knows which way North is and knows what time it is despite not having looked at a clock in hours.

I am however completely aphantasic so cannot even begin to picture anything in my mind, and would happily trade my other talents for that.

Trovindia · 07/09/2025 11:40

YanTanTetheraPetheraBumfitt · 07/09/2025 10:57

I don’t want them to move. I want them to keep in a straight line but to know I’m wanting to pass and not suddenly leap to the side which they might do if they don’t know I’m there 😁.

Ah ok. In that case I think "coming past" might be better. The reference to left or right is confusing and I don't get confused over left and right!

niadainud · 07/09/2025 11:41

Obsesetits · 07/09/2025 10:12

Yes; the left are usually quite normal, emotionally intelligent people.
The right, not so much.

Hilarious.

SecondStarOnTheRight · 07/09/2025 11:41

Honestly feel like I could have written this myself. Apart from the fact I didn't speak to any friends yesterday, just a relative who always teases me about not knowing my left from my right, this is exactly me! 😂

Watchingthechaseagain · 07/09/2025 11:58

@Trovindiaspelling necessary.

allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 07/09/2025 12:08

@TeaAndCakeMakeThingsBetter hopefully none of you drive on the roads!!

HelpMeGetThrough · 07/09/2025 12:10

Near side and off side for cars confuse anyone?

CrosswordBlues · 07/09/2025 12:15

HelpMeGetThrough · 07/09/2025 12:10

Near side and off side for cars confuse anyone?

I did a lot of student theatre and ‘stage right’ and ‘stage left’ flummoxed me for years.

Zanatdy · 07/09/2025 12:18

Instinct to me. I remember when I asked my friend (RIP, she passed earlier this year) to give my dog his eye drops one day. It was a comical conversation which was his right eye - so maybe people don’t know!!

Nellieinthebarn · 07/09/2025 12:26

I have very little sense of left and right. Also I can't just reverse routes and find my way home. From the other direction its a whole other journey for me. My memory for routes is appalling, while my memory generally is excellent.

I am autistic, I don't know if that's got anything to do with it. My husband had a diagnosis of Aspergers, when that was allowed, and he knows he left from right, and reverse routes. His general memory is not good though.

For the left and right thing, I find the quickest way for me is to only wear rings on my left hand. A quick glance at my hand, or rub my thumb over my rings, to check, and I'm good to go.

Nellieinthebarn · 07/09/2025 12:26

HelpMeGetThrough · 07/09/2025 12:10

Near side and off side for cars confuse anyone?

Yes, that should be banned.

Trovindia · 07/09/2025 12:28

Watchingthechaseagain · 07/09/2025 11:58

@Trovindiaspelling necessary.

Ah!! I'm ok with that one but for accommodation I have to say "it's a big enough word to accommodate two Cs and two Ms".

DidntHaveTheLatin · 07/09/2025 12:28

HelpMeGetThrough · 07/09/2025 12:10

Near side and off side for cars confuse anyone?

This is a mystery to me. See also: inside lane/outside lane on the motorway. I just say slow, middle and fast but yes I KNOW that's wrong and there's just a lane and two overtaking lanes - I don't actually think of them with the slow/middle/fast purpose IYSWIM.

maxisback · 07/09/2025 12:28

‘You write with your right’ is how I work it out. I never just know. I am autistic, also have ADHD!

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