If you were meeting a 3 month old baby and your child had a cold, would you let the parents know beforehand ?

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Due to meet up with a friend and meet her little girl for the first time. She’s around 3 months old.

my son has a cold. No fever, just snotty and coughing and sneezing.

I think it’s common courtesy to let my friend know that my son isn’t well and to let her decide if she wants to meet up with us. We are going for lunch at a restaurant.

my husband thinks I’m OTT. I won’t be offended if she’d rather not meet.

last year my little one had a fever on his birthday and I let another friend who was supposed to be coming with her son ( they were both 2 ) and she opted out of coming. I totally understand.

I would have been a bit put out if someone came to meet my baby and brought a snotty child without telling me.

what does everyone think ?

like I said, my husband thinks I’m being OTT. But he wouldn’t have been the one up all night for days with a sick child ! I know viruses can’t be avoided, but sometimes, when someone is actively ill- you can actually avoid it!

You are very considerate op.

I always did and then let them make the call.

Most people still wanted to meet up anyway but it really irked me when iid go to meet someone with my child and theirs was ill and they said nothing.

And, yes, like tour husband, OP, it was always people who didn't have to consider the wider implications of childhood illnesses. Like taking time off work or getting up in the night.

Can you leave snotty home with DH and go by yourself? I wouldnt take a snotty child to see a baby

I think it would be incredibly inconsiderate and rude not to tell them, and I'd cancel. Why expose a baby so young to a cold when it's not necessary

Yes you need to say. I personally wouldn't have even discussed it with my husband, you don't need his consent! Just do the right thing.

Yes your son could have a variety of viruses with those symptoms aged 5.

This includes a virus that causes bronchiolitis, which could be very serious for a 3 month old, let the Mum take the decision on risk.

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