To think "they're just kids" is a shit response to prolonged ear piercing screaming?

[BusWankers]

Daughter was in some enclosed playground, playing with a couple of kids. A parent turns up with two, who join in. Lots of happy noise.
Then the two girls start squealing, which turns into actual screaming.

I'm talking fully on screaming as though you're in mortal danger, going on for 5-10 seconds, repeatedly. It was awful, going right through me, adults around were flinching each time... my child was asking them to stop, they didn't.

So I ask the parent if they could ask them to stop the screaming, no worries having fun, being loud etc but the screaming is too much... I get a disgusted look and they reply "uhhhh, they're just kids..." Eye rolls and turns away

So I told the kids myself. (They stopped)

AIBU to think the parent could have asked them to be quiet?

Bored OP?

Dunno why the first response was snarky

I I agree OP, I absolute hate that type of noise and it’s completely unnecessary. There is a difference between kids making excitable noise and just screaming for the sake of it. They need to be told!

I thought this was going to be about someone screaming while getting their ears pierced.

I think YABU. Kids playing can be fucking annoying, but the one place you really can’t complain is a child’s playground IMO

It is not necessary for kids to scream or yell to have fun. Mine don't, because I have always come down hard on them about it.

Same!

OP, YANBU. There's no need for kids to scream at the top of their lungs for any reason. It's a horrible noise.

My oldest is 14. His friend is 13. That kid still bloody screams, and not outside. He’ll be in my living room, they’ll be playing something and he just screams. He’s been doing it since they were kids. Nothing is happening, no reason for it, he just shrieks and then laughs as he thinks it’s hilarious. His parents do fuck all about it and I’m sick to death of having to go into the room and tell him to just stop bloody screaming. He is not neurodiverse; he just thinks it’s funny. He’s no longer allowed round a lot of people’s houses and has lost friends because they’re all 14 now. They don’t want to deal with that idiotic behaviour.

It absolutely does happen. Some kids think it is hilarious to scream and, from my experience, it’s down to the parenting.

No need for it but don’t ever bother trying to point it out because parents don’t discipline their kids anymore. They can do what they like and everyone else can get fucked.

What I don’t believe is that the op told them to stop or the other parent’s response

Since when is screaming at the top.of your lungs or like your being murdered playing?

We (ex and me) explained about people possibly thinking it was someone in danger/need of help etc... that did the trick. Kind of like 'the boy who cried wolf' (iyswim)

Of course you can - being in a playground doesn't mean you can just let your kids be feral.

Yes, that's the other concern isn't it. "Is that child really being murdered this time?!"

That’s exactly what I thought and then thought who would do this to their children in the park.

Why parents are so quick to defend their little darlings and refuse to curb bad behaviour I don’t know. They’re raising a generation of rude, selfish, entitled, self-centred children incapable of considering anyone other than themselves. And doing them a terrible disservice.

You shouldn’t allow your kids to do things that cause others to dislike them.

I think parenting is so different these days. We’d have been hauled in and bollocked if we screamed when out playing.

Mine at 3 and 5, my 3 year old is currently going through a phase of wanting to screaming bloody murdered for everything; scream-talking, Scream-playing. It’s so overstimulating to me alone I would hate for other people just trying to enjoy their day to endure it too. The second he starts out in public we have to have a conversation about not screaming and shouting, we only use indoor voices inside anyway, but even outside I ask him not to screech and scream unless he’s in a open area like a park or field, in the woods ect.. secluded maybe 🤣

I agree with you OP.
We teach our kids that screaming if for if you are in extreme pain, in danger or need help NOW. Not for messing about.

Next door but one to me have a dc who is prone to screaming despite parents pulling him up on it every day, he’s been sent inside twice today already for screaming, at 7 you would think he would learn (no Sen)

That's nice dear... Believe what you want, I was there, you weren't

Why wouldn't you believe it?

I can when it's so fucking piercing loud that people were wincing.

I'm all for happy fun noise, loud happy voices, the occasional shriek if joy etc.

But this was blood curdling screaming for no reason and carrying on when being asked to shut up.

@BusWankers I've told kids that aren't mine to stop screaming before.
I usually say something like "Are you being eaten by a wolf? Because if not then don't scream like that please" .
It usually baffles the kids into shutting up.

I remember hearing ear splitting screaming in soft play thinking it was mine i stuck my head in and shouted that better NOT be you screaming like a banshee ive told you not to! (He was going through a phase of screaming) turns out it wasn't but the volume reduced significantly the mum complained? She actually came over and complained that I stifled her child I said technically I told mine off but the fact that yours went quiet shows even she knows its wrong "you can't stifle a literal CHILD" 🤔 yes yes you can 😂