To be furious that a cashier at supermarket told me off for DD eating a bite of an apple...

[pavlovthecat]

... which I paid for?

Apparently, it is paid for by weight, so could I not let her do it in future? No please. Nothing else.

She is 23 months old. So charge me the extra f**king half pence then tosser!!!

It came to 21p. She had taken two 23 month old sized bites. Which is why I was buying it in the first place!

Yup there's a YABU from Quattro here too.

In the same position, I used to buy two apples (or more frequently bananas) and get the cashier to weigh the uneaten one twice. It works fine. Technically even two 23 month old bites count as theft. Sorry and all that.

lol franny.

MrsCarrot - really, they should. I agree. Us non-perfect mothers can learn something from them I think, like how to stop a child biting an apple for the second time, after you say no, but cant quite run all Hollywood film like, screeching across the floor, horror on face, quick enough to snatch said apple from her hands! Or how to stop your child from ever leaving your side without strapping them into a pushchair, even though they can walk.

Quattro - you need to keep up...It has already bee evidenced that it does not count as theft, unless there was dishonesty involved. Shall I show you again? .

I am off to go eat trifle brought over by my friend, who wants a coffee.

So, keep posting your thoughts, and I shall take a look in a bit!

I don't think IABU actually.

check she paid for the trifle before eating any, won't you pavlov

Quattro - also, what if the second apple is a different weight? That does not work, as it is paid for on weight as established already, then surely, you could be stealing, by your own definition, if it weighs less than the one you bought? Especially as you would be actively choosing this option, so even more likely to be theft! Or did you weight it first to make sure it was exactly the same, and could you prove this if challenged?!!

Sorry, I am going now, really!

Hang on hang on. The child cannot be liable but you can and are. Also you clearly did have a permanent intention to deprive - you didn't pay for the two mouthfuls and had no intention of so doing.

Why not pay for it in full by the way? No-one's saying that you can be ceaselessly vigilant and stop them before they do things, but there's no reason why you shouldn't pay for the things taken (in their entirety).

quattro - if asked, absolutely would have, if they still take half pennies . Or, as she was still chewing, i could have asked her to spit it out? - yes, i should have done that!

Now, that WOULD have grossed out the male cashier!

Pavlov, aren't you the lady with the sister who knows a lot because she reads the Daily Mail? I'd like her opinion!

I have just been to tesco and saw a man on his 6own^ eating loose grapes!!

I immediately thought of Mumsnet of course

At quarter to six on a Sunday evening spooky?? My god, he'd probably broken into the store too

Haha!!

Takes me ages to unpack the shopping and cook dinner before getting round to my valuable MN time

Man was diabetic and warding off a hypo?

Pavlov, you have my sympathy - my almost 3 year old would do that quite innocently and happily too. Maybe those who can explain such things to their toddlers have more placid children?

I think the cashier was jobsworth and rude, and I 'm with pavlov 100%
She is definitely not being unreasonable.
Country's going to the dogs,
service is not what it used to be
hrrumph

lol at this thread now! 'You didn't pay for the two mouthfuls.'Just how big is your dd's mouth pavlov? Did she take big gobfuls of the offending apple? Anyway, what about apples that get knocked off the shelf and bruised? I'm always ending up with them (when dh goes shopping!) Are Tesco's at fault then for selling me a dodgy apple with a big bruise on the side that I always have to cut out?

LOL...that was my point about the grapes earlier on, cornsilk!

I suppose I've got old fashioned ideas about property. If I haven't paid for it, it isn't mine.

The idea that you are entitled to steal because you once bought a bruised apple from Tescos is sloppy thinking IMO. Since when did two wrongs ever make a right? Yes buying a bruised apple is seriously irritating because in reality you are not going to take it back - time/money etc. But it still doesn't make it right to take something from them, does it?

I'm disappointed. I do so love a good grape-stealing thread. However, having read the posts, Pavlov - you're completely in the clear.

I HATE people giving their DCs things which are paid for by weight and often alert staff to the "stealing" which is going on in Aisle 4 .

FGS, if you want your child to munch going round the supermarket, then take it with you in the first place. Or are you going to wait until your child is 12 before you say, "Actually, it isn't right to take things which don't belong to you"?

No pavlov you're wrong on this one, you haven't paid for the weight of apple she's eaten . No matter how meagre.

I always took/ take a snack wherever I went/ go with mine when they were preschoolers. Stops the whine for treats, and no need to broach the moral no mans land that is eating before paying. I mean what if your card failed or you lost your wallet? If you could not pay.
the embarrassment.

kittywise - I would agree, but have you read all the posts, which show that Pavlov did not intentionally LET her LO bite the apple? There's a big difference IMO

Hmmm so perhaps said youngun should not be roaming but instead be in a trolley. I'm 3 kids down and kitty has 6 and never have mine ever done this.

ah, why spoil a perfectly good AIBU thread by actually READING what the OP says before wading in and judging her
that's not in the spirit of MN at all

its a feckin bite of an apple, i'm sure Pavlov would have paid for the extra bit if asked, this is bonkers.