To be furious that a cashier at supermarket told me off for DD eating a bite of an apple...

[pavlovthecat]

... which I paid for?

Apparently, it is paid for by weight, so could I not let her do it in future? No please. Nothing else.

She is 23 months old. So charge me the extra f**king half pence then tosser!!!

It came to 21p. She had taken two 23 month old sized bites. Which is why I was buying it in the first place!

PMSL , just read the whole thread!

Well so far I've learnt:

it was male cashier

which supermarket MNers choose to shoplift in is a reflection of their class

and Pavlov should've let her dd filch the yoghurt instead

Jim'll fix it Savile

Jeremy auto-icon Bentham

I've had parents give me a whole new apple to weigh when their childs happily chomping on one. I personally think it's quite sweet. Theres one guy who buys chewing gum and always opens the packet and has a peice before I scan it. I've been given empty wrappers, half drunk bottles of juice, half eaten sarnies, just about everything. It annoys me when people don't tell you something is open and you get covered.

We will shortly be accused of being cunts, I fear.

I have started a new thread for those interested in the Savile/Bentham crossover here.

Actually, more than a new topic entitled 'mentalists', MN needs a topic entitled 'cunts'.

Just stop me signing up for the daily email then.

Cunts? Are we? Perhaps so.

Must go to bed. Will discuss the horrors of the new Benthamites tomorrow.

For the "class" poll, I will go on record as beleiving the OP was NBU.

I too have let ds, when he was a toddler, eat grapes when going round the supermarket - and have even tried and failed to pay for them.

And I am most definitely middle class . Not wannabe, not working class made good, not "I like to think I am". I just am* - and those Mumsnetters who have met me I am sure would agree. I was brought up in a middle class area, with middle class parents and middle class aspirations. I'm so cliched (for he pedants, I know there should be an e acute in there too) it's funny - at least it is to dh.

He, on the other hand, is "working class made good". He is now living in an area he aspired to, whereas I am just living in the sort of area I always assumed I would .

How does that fit Xenia's theory?

Bexie, have you had tags from clothes? Tink loves clothes and if it's something she can wear now, she will! I've had to snap a few tags off (no security tag) of hats for scanning when she's refused to let me have it back. I often pick something extra up when we are in a small shop just so they can scan it as I know once she has it she won't let it go. She is learning now that the man/lady needs to look at what she has and need money (she's getting into this concept!)

i don'tget the cunt reference - please can someone spell out this reference and what it relates to?

pmsl @cam

what do uper middle class eople wear then?

al those flowers just tend to look the same after a bit

In response to Xenia's comment about letting ones child eat food before the checkout being a class issue!!!!!!!. If it is a class issue the middle classes are certainly culprits too

I will confess that I have regularly given my daughter a snack to eat whilst wandering round my local Waitrose..I would never give her a weighed item. However, I sometimes open a pack of organix raisins or similar..

Of course I always pay for the pack of raisins at the end and explain to the cashiers that my daughter has eaten some raisins in one of maybe 12 little boxes in the packet.

I consider myself to be an honest person. As long as one pays correctly for the item it is not the end of the world if one's child has started eating it whilst going round.

I would not give my child a grape or item that could not be properly accounted for at the end.

In the end Waitrose are getting all their money and more..as if my child is happily munching some raisins she will be happier for longer and I will shop for longer.

Whilst it is not healthy for adults to graze on food all day, it is normal practice for toddlers to eat little and often and it is good for them. Toddlers who are overweight are probably this way due to lack of excercise eating junk rather than healthy food and due to their genetic makeup.

I think the OP was honest in explaining to the cashier that her child had grabbed and eaten two bites of the apple and all the cashier had to say was please try to make sure it doesn't happen again or if she was being very pedantic she could have charged an extra 3p for the bite taken! - but it would not have looked good for the supermarket to be that petty!

Tags from clothes......hmm, I don't think so. The Tesco I work in now is too small to have them, but I worked in a bigger one with clothing when I lived in England. I've had people open toys for their kids. Thinking about it, i've had women give me empty tight packaging which they've put on in the loos, so I probably have been given clothing tags to scan before.

Boden, Custardo, they wear Boden. Hasn't been Laura Ashley since 1982.

Kids eating things in the supermarket trolley before they've been paid for isn't a class issue and sorry to be a party pooper, but it doesn't help anyone to pretend that it is. It's like the bloomin' French Revolution on here sometimes. Some people deem pre-payment trolley tot scoffing acceptable, some think it's beyond the pale. It's personal choice. End of. Personally, I'd discourage my kid from doing it, because I think it's best to engender the mindset that stuff in the shops needs to be paid for before it's consumed - but if an apple got munched, I'd say sorry and pay up, and would expect the cashier to respond politely, which didn't happen for the op. Anyway, this has nothing to do with my [disgusted face] class.

Quite right, Lady T.

Xenia likes to throw around the idea that all the ills of the world are down to the working classes and their unsanitary ways. I am sure she doesn't mean it. I think she's just trying to goad us middle class liberals into calling her nouveau-riche. But we won't stoop to her level.

IorekByrnison

Please could you explain what your post about Boden and Laura Ashley is about?!

Just interested as I shop with both! Should I have ditched Laura Ashley for Boden?

Really it's barely worth explaining. But custardo made a comment about middle class women wearing Laura Ashley and someone said they don't wear LA any more and custy said well what do they wear, and I said it's all Boden now, noone's worn Laura Ashley since 1982. But clearly I haven't been to the shops much since about 1997 so Laura Ashley's resurgence has passed me by entirely. Although I had noticed that their lampshades and wallpapers are pretty snazzy lately.

Does this clarify the apple snacking issue?

how do the middle classes furnish their homes?

I thought Boden was just a MN freak thing - i didn't realise real MC's actually wore that stuff en masse

My DD was with the CM in a shop the other week, and when the CM turned around, DD had a mouthful of pick and mix sweets.
I asked the CM if I owed any money, but the CM said she'd just walked out because "if they are going to leave items in the grasps of a two year old, serves them right"

CM's are so working class

Custardo see my post below re furnishings.

I know several women who've never even been on mumsnet who are all Bodened up to the nines. And their kids.

I thought CM's were lower middle, as W/C could not afford?

Was custardo not referring to the socio-economic group of the childminder herself rather than the employer?

Don't know about class but certainly takes more balls than I've got.

I dont know about that, my friend has her three kids at a childminders to the tune of £900 a month, that's just for those three, so add on the others she looks after, quite a profitable little business!

Custardo I hope you're joking.

Gordon I think it's satire. You have to read Xenia's posts further down for it to make sense.