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My ds’s keep on fighting / arguing what do I do

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BeSunnyAquaPombear · 06/09/2025 02:08

They share a room and they always beat each other’s up and always shout at each other my ds’s are 13 and 15 and every day their aways arguing over something.
my DD’s aged 7 and 16 both hate rough play in general sports anything Like that and they hate getting muddy .
earlier they were fighting that bad that tonight my 16 year old dd and my 15 year old ds had to switch rooms just for tonight as it got to far and it was unsafe for them to sleep in the same room together.

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PollyBell · 06/09/2025 02:16

They need separate rooms not sure what else you can do

BeSunnyAquaPombear · 06/09/2025 02:21

PollyBell · 06/09/2025 02:16

They need separate rooms not sure what else you can do

If they have separate rooms that means the girls will have to share and my oldest needs her own space at times as she studies a lot

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Springadorable · 06/09/2025 06:09

Boys separate rooms, and a desk in your room for your eldest to study.

Zanatdy · 06/09/2025 06:12

If you don’t want your girls to share then consider giving up your bedroom and getting a sofa bed. When kids get older, sharing rooms can be difficult. I wouldn’t be standing for any physical fighting in my home. What consequences will there be for them? It’s horrible for your poor girls having to witness that and live in such an atmosphere. Or bring your 7yr old into your room for a few years until older DC move out.

the7Vabo · 06/09/2025 06:17

Zanatdy · 06/09/2025 06:12

If you don’t want your girls to share then consider giving up your bedroom and getting a sofa bed. When kids get older, sharing rooms can be difficult. I wouldn’t be standing for any physical fighting in my home. What consequences will there be for them? It’s horrible for your poor girls having to witness that and live in such an atmosphere. Or bring your 7yr old into your room for a few years until older DC move out.

Edited

13 and 15 is a difficult age to share a room. They have nowhere to retreat to and I’d assume that’s part of the issue.
Can you extent or come up with another bedroom somehow?

BeSunnyAquaPombear · 06/09/2025 21:12

Zanatdy · 06/09/2025 06:12

If you don’t want your girls to share then consider giving up your bedroom and getting a sofa bed. When kids get older, sharing rooms can be difficult. I wouldn’t be standing for any physical fighting in my home. What consequences will there be for them? It’s horrible for your poor girls having to witness that and live in such an atmosphere. Or bring your 7yr old into your room for a few years until older DC move out.

Edited

I sleep on a aofa bed anyway I don’t have a bedroom I forgot to write sorry

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Merryoldgoat · 06/09/2025 21:13

What are they fighting about?

BeSunnyAquaPombear · 06/09/2025 21:15

Merryoldgoat · 06/09/2025 21:13

What are they fighting about?

I don’t really know sometimes but it happens constantly

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Bathingforest · 06/09/2025 21:18

Do you get their father in the picture? How many fathers all your kids have? Can some of them help with taking a child to live with him / them?

BeSunnyAquaPombear · 06/09/2025 21:21

Bathingforest · 06/09/2025 21:18

Do you get their father in the picture? How many fathers all your kids have? Can some of them help with taking a child to live with him / them?

My oldest 2 have the same father my 13 year old ds has a different father and my 7 year old dd has a different father to all of them and I am with her father still now

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WaterfallSounds · 06/09/2025 21:25

Not you again !!!

BeSunnyAquaPombear · 06/09/2025 21:26

WaterfallSounds · 06/09/2025 21:25

Not you again !!!

again I don’t get it ?

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WaterfallSounds · 06/09/2025 21:26

I’ve reported.

BeSunnyAquaPombear · 06/09/2025 21:28

WaterfallSounds · 06/09/2025 21:26

I’ve reported.

For what exactly can you please explain

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WaterfallSounds · 06/09/2025 21:32

There is a very weird niche troll who pops up with tedious regularity - usually late at night- with completely unbelievable shite about teen sons.
You are so recognisable.

TortoiseMantle · 06/09/2025 21:50

Springadorable · 06/09/2025 06:09

Boys separate rooms, and a desk in your room for your eldest to study.

So the boys are rewarded and the girls punished for the boys’ bad behaviour?

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