I went on a few dates with a guy #1, it was ok. Not mind-blowing, but I liked him, and we kissed. Then I went on 3 dates with the guy #2 (the third one at his place). All dates with guy #2 were within less than a week. I know it’s fast, but we seem really into each other. I’m actually very rational, and there are things that I don’t love about him, but in general, everything was great.
So I met with guy #1 and told him it wouldn't work out. He is absolutely lovely, and I really liked him. But there were a few reasons why I couldn't imagine our future together (none of them were critical, just the vibe and lifestyle).
Now I'm thinking, did I jump the fence? I was only on 3 dates with the guy #2. We did not discuss exclusivity (for me it starts with sex, but people are different).
Won't I put too much pressure on the potential relationship by neglecting other guys? Should I have an “exclusivity” conversation, which sounds reasonable after sex, but is kinda too soon time-wise? For context, I’m in my late 30s. Both guys are in their 40s and claimed at the beginning they want a serious relationship, so I don't want to just mess around. But also don’t want to move too quickly.