I’m so fed up. I feel like I’m living in Groundhog Day and am worried about how we move forward.
In a nutshell, DD14 is on the autism pathway. She has super heightened sensitivity to sounds and noises and is massively triggered by DH (her dad). She is then really rude to him.
She calms down, apologises and is generally a really lovely girl when she is not overstimulated or anxious. She’s massively overwhelmed by school starting again so it’s really bad at the moment.
I’m feeling so stuck as he feels I let her get away with everything, I don’t support him and she is allowed to be disrespectful. I see her overwhelmed and struggling and think her outbursts are a response to stress and we should support not sanction.
We talk, he agrees to try a different approach and then it happens again. I’m so fed up. I’ve suggested counselling with an autism support group but it’s expensive. There’s nothing else really available.
Please give me your tips and ideas for improving things. I feel like this is pulling our family apart.