How do you manage money in a relationship when one works and one doesn't?
My partner worked for 8 years whilst I was a SAHM due to our children having medical conditions. I kept the benefits and he sent £150 a week towards rent and council tax and kept the rest - I paid all the bills.
He was made redundant and I went back to work. We now put all the benefits and my wages in to one account. All the bills come out from that and we both get an allowance every week of £200. He paid off his car in full from his redundancy pay and my car finance comes out of my allowance. I admit, I spend more than he does but I can save when I want to. He does the school run, i cook every day and share the housework.
I get scrutinised for buying out of the joint account so use my money but this month I've got my insurance, tax, M.O.T and other things due and it's a bit of a struggle and I feel frustrated that I work so hard and have to juggle.
I probably should have budgeted better but since losing someone really close I've adopted a 'you only live once' attitude.
I'm probably being selfish and he stays at home so I can work but he has the luxury of going to the gym every day, doing whatever he likes (I miss it a little, plus always had a child at home). Some times I feel I should have a bit extra money for going to work but I also understand we're a team.
I'm curious to how it works for other couples