Ex Husband in hospital, no idea why

[ThereIsAlwaysWine]

He just text our 16 year old son that he’s in hospital, not the local one, a large London hospital. But he didn’t say why, just that he’d let him know later. So I messaged to ask if he’s ok, and he just replied with a fingers crossed emoji and said he’s about to run out of battery! Even adult DD text to ask and he just said the same to her. What sort of behaviour is this? I’m angry that he’s left our children worrying about him with no way of getting in touch. What a knob!

If we even told them in the first place. We probably wouldn't until we had some info to share or if we needed to because they were expecting us somewhere.

Sounds like he is vague booking like people who "check in" to a hospital on Facebook

He’s an attention seeking knob. Has he not got a gf ?

Agree with this. It seems very self centered to send a message and then give no other information. A bit like those people who post a picture of themselves in hospital with no further information so everyone can ask what's up hun.

It's very unfair on the kids and completely unnecessary.

He has already worried them by giving so little information and leaving them hanging. He should have waited until he had a full battery and give the full details.

Or attention seeking.

Or maybe he's in pain and not thinking straight? I don't make the best decisions then either.

Who knows though. The OP never returned to this thread.

He's in the hospital, probably scared and waiting for answers. I highly doubt he's doing this to cause drama with his ex-wife.

Can men do anything right on this site? I like this site a lot but the men bashing and projection are ridiculous.

does he have a history of attention seeking behaviour or acting out to make the children feel guilty when he thinks he is being forgotten? My FIL has had so many ‘terrible yet vague’ health scares over the years that the running joke is every time we buy a new nice outfit for something - at least we have a funeral dress now because the last one is so out of fashion.

Lucky you to not be jaded by some men’s bad behaviours. Telling someone your battery is going flat but not telling your children what’s going on is schoolyard look at me do a cartwheel behaviour.

I’d say that about anyone who said to their children, “I’m in hospital, my battery is dying,” but gave them no more information!

Being a man is incidental.

Indeed. Let's not pretend this is because the person in question is a man. It's a shit thing to send such a message to your kids with no other context regardless of whether you're a man or women and my response is nothing to do with the fact the person in question is a man.

This isn’t about male bashing!

I think most sensible parents would have opted to text their dc (a) once their phone was charged and they could explain more fully and (b) once tests had been run.

But if he is being tested for a heart attack or stroke or equivalent he should have texted you briefly Op and not involved the dc at all. Or asked one of the nurses to send you a message.

What he has done is the mobile phone equivalent of those annoying people on Facebook who post a photo of themselves in hospital without explanation, hoping that will provoke lots of sympathetic questions and comments! It’s attention-seeking through and through.

And it’s manipulative. Either ask for help straightforwardly if you need it. Or don’t.
But don’t go worrying your dc unnecessarily.