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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To ask you to tell me what I already know… (a LTB Situation)

30 replies

LeopardPrintIsNeutral · 05/09/2025 14:17

It’s time to LTB.
in various incarnations over the last twelve years I’ve posted on mumsnet about “D”H

He doesn’t work
He throws all my stuff away
wont let me have a glass of wine
he is constantly angry at me
forced me into an abortion several years ago that absolutely ruined me
wont let me sleep in my own bed
gets mad if I give him change instead of cash
wont let me buy things for DD
has thrown things in anger in the past
ETC etc

BUT
The icing on the cake.
He’s started calling DD a “dickhead” and “a little bitch”
Ive called him out on it, and he’s just said “if she’s being a dickhead, I’m going to call her a dickhead” SHES FIVE!!! 😭😭😭
she swears in context at things and people and then says but daddy said it. “I’m so pissed at you” or “you fucking chicken” it’s actually sickening.

i don’t know how to get out of this. I will have to give him half of everything and I have literally nothing but the house which is shared ownership anyway. I’ve got absolutely no idea where to start and I just feel so sick and sad and scared. And I don’t know what to do. 😭😭😭

I know this is AIBU but please please be kind to me.

OP posts:
MyLimeGuide · 05/09/2025 19:50

LeopardPrintIsNeutral · 05/09/2025 15:47

Thank you so much everyone it just feels so scary but you’re absolutely right

Surely being with this man is more scary? Its the unknown, it will be OK ❤

MyLimeGuide · 05/09/2025 19:51

LeopardPrintIsNeutral · 05/09/2025 19:45

Not if he argues he’s the primary caregiver

But hes not though. Stay strong hes nothing.

Threepeaks2025 · 06/09/2025 07:50

Start recording his interactions with his DD. Use this as leverage.

JohnofWessex · 06/09/2025 10:25

LeopardPrintIsNeutral · 05/09/2025 19:45

Not if he argues he’s the primary caregiver

You need proper advice

I would start by looking at getting him excluded from the house

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 06/09/2025 10:45

You need to seek advice from an abuse charity and be police to get him out of the house as without legal stuff you’re end he’ll have the right to stay in the marital home

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