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AIBU to wonder how often this scenario plays out

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Sunshinedontgo · 05/09/2025 14:03

Person starts having symptoms, does a wait and see, maybe ups their vitamins, eats a bit healthier.

A bit more time passes and things aren’t improving. Person thinks I need to see a doctor, I must make an appointment. The I must make an appointment becomes more apparent.

Person finally does the waiting to log an e-consult or phone call competition. They weigh up the odds of getting an appointment to missing train / being late for work / not getting kids to school on time and give up. They try later in day - maybe as it’s non-urgent, they can pre-book something? It’s not really an option.

Person calls the next day, phone is answered as she’s walking the final few yards to school, guilty for not saying goodbye and cringing at lack of privacy. There are no appointments.

She leaves extra early for work the next day so she can be in the office before she needs to get on phone. Of course she’s not the only one in. She doesn’t get an appointment. It’s left another few days. She finally gets an appointment.

It’s tiring with young children / you’re getting older / stress can make you feel ill / do you feel depressed / have you tried a routine. Patient says it’s different, lists symptoms. Doctor agrees to some blood tests.

Person books blood tests and awaits results. She receives a call or text from surgery saying they’re normal. Maybe it is stress. She’s certainly starting to feel down. She eventually goes onto Dr Google or social media and realises that maybe she should see the results.

She calls surgery and eventually gets a copy. She looks at Nice guidelines, she realises she has textbook symptoms, goes back to doctor who notes her low mood and offers her anti-depressants. He also concedes that she may benefit from e.g. iron tablets with a ferritin level of 12.

How often are patients having to determine their own blood results, even with textbook symptoms?

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AlohaRose · 05/09/2025 14:10

Textbook symptoms of what – depression? Or are you saying that the doctor is offering you antidepressants but you think you are actually suffering from something else?

Abthdust · 05/09/2025 14:12

Not entirely sure what you are asking. Does it play out that people don't make doctor's appointment when it would be optimal if they did / could cos busy lives and difficult to get through? Yes, 100%.

Are you asking if there are a series of vague symptoms that it's hard to pin down what the issue is, even after lots of tests? Yes, 100%.

What are you asking?

Chompingatthebeat · 05/09/2025 14:14

Depression or low iron, and why the third person, not easy reading

Tiredofwhataboutery · 05/09/2025 14:17

I had something similar but my ferritin was two! I think 6 is a worry point but really you want it to be 70+. I was given iron tablets but really just kept feeling worse went to ooh and ended up with blood then iron transfusion. Such a difference if you are flush a private iron transfusion can give you an amazing boost starts from about £500.

Sunshinedontgo · 05/09/2025 15:13

Blood tests often don’t seem to really be looked at in relation to symptoms tests were ordered for. Some doctors also seem quick to offer antidepressants, when someone is feeling like crap, rather than looking at the symptoms of why they’re feeling like crap.

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Sunshinedontgo · 05/09/2025 15:16

Tiredofwhataboutery · 05/09/2025 14:17

I had something similar but my ferritin was two! I think 6 is a worry point but really you want it to be 70+. I was given iron tablets but really just kept feeling worse went to ooh and ended up with blood then iron transfusion. Such a difference if you are flush a private iron transfusion can give you an amazing boost starts from about £500.

2! 😮 You must have felt dreadful!

Sorry to PP’s. My post is badly written.

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ClaredeBear · 05/09/2025 15:17

Sunshinedontgo · 05/09/2025 15:13

Blood tests often don’t seem to really be looked at in relation to symptoms tests were ordered for. Some doctors also seem quick to offer antidepressants, when someone is feeling like crap, rather than looking at the symptoms of why they’re feeling like crap.

Yes, we were told by a GP recently (not our own) that GPs “are not great with test results and I took it to mean the kind of scenario you describe. We’ve had a similar experience.

Abthdust · 05/09/2025 17:28

It really depends on the GP, but I always look at my blood test results because if it's clinically "normal" the doctor tells you there's nothing to worry about but I like to keep an eye on trends and just know how close I am to "not normal." We need to advocate for ourselves, and there are some excellent GPs and some not so excellent. Hope you feel better soon.

Farmwifefarmlife · 05/09/2025 17:37

Sunshinedontgo · 05/09/2025 15:13

Blood tests often don’t seem to really be looked at in relation to symptoms tests were ordered for. Some doctors also seem quick to offer antidepressants, when someone is feeling like crap, rather than looking at the symptoms of why they’re feeling like crap.

I totally agree my DH was offered antidepressants for a sinus infection!!

Sunshinedontgo · 05/09/2025 21:05

A sinus infection?!

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iirbRosb · 05/09/2025 21:10

Umm you’ve just described my life…..I also started myself on iron and B12 as while my results were “normal” they were lower than previous years and on the lower side.
Anti depressants were also offered but made it worse and aren’t the solution

Sunshinedontgo · 05/09/2025 21:19

Abthdust · 05/09/2025 17:28

It really depends on the GP, but I always look at my blood test results because if it's clinically "normal" the doctor tells you there's nothing to worry about but I like to keep an eye on trends and just know how close I am to "not normal." We need to advocate for ourselves, and there are some excellent GPs and some not so excellent. Hope you feel better soon.

It’s good to have a personal baseline to compare to.
I don’t know why things like ferritin are lab tested as normal when guidelines say to intervene. It’s not always easy to get actual results and some people will take G.P.’s word.

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Sunshinedontgo · 05/09/2025 21:46

@iirbRosbI said no to them. GP was willing to put symptoms down to just life, rather than do any bloods, but would consider depression.

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